History of Feminism
Related: About this forumI think certain sexists who insist women don't have a right to determine
what feminism means for us should not be allowed to come into this group for self promotion. If you agree, rec this thread.
Arcanetrance
(2,670 posts)Because not all women have the same life experiences. But that's my thinking as a guy looking at the idea.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)Women do vary, but when a man tries to tell me which movements I should support and tries to pigeon hole me into certain categories, that pisses me off.
Arcanetrance
(2,670 posts)BainsBane
(53,012 posts)for anyone not part of the group they are addressing. That's why it pissed me off so much. I've never in a million years do that.
Sheldon Cooper
(3,724 posts)BainsBane
(53,012 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)I thought it fair to put it to a vote, and I didn't mention names.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)BainsBane
(53,012 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)them
nah. that doesnt fly either. you were much better articulating the issue
but t does piss me off. that is the aggressive me, btw
MadrasT
(7,237 posts)I just ignore those sorts, in general... It amuses me when men think they can tell feminists they're doing it wrong. It especially amuses me when it appears that the underlying core issue is ultimately really about protecting men's unfettered access to women's bodies for sex.
Many "sex positive" men are just hilarious to me.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)They don't need to come in here.
MadrasT
(7,237 posts)Others may disagree, and that is fine. I am only one voice.
JimboBillyBubbaBob
(1,389 posts)How are ideas evolved without the participation of varying viewpoints? Are you seeking genuine discourse or like-mindedness? Censorship of any stripe is damaging in the long term.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)How does that help?
Or is it just women who should be talked down to and told they don't know what's best for them?
JimboBillyBubbaBob
(1,389 posts)they should be talked to. Condescension sets a negative tone in any discussion. I'm advocating the free exchange of ideas in a peaceful manner.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)BainsBane
(53,012 posts)Or is it just women who are expected to have men tell them what rights they can ask for?
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)works for you? you must not be woman, black or gay.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)but suddenly we're supposed to open to reactionary views on gender.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)should be embraced as simply differing views.
JimboBillyBubbaBob
(1,389 posts)At the risk of giving too much away, I am an educator in the discipline of social anthropology. This is the lens I view things from. The topics you note all have differing views, surely equally toxic on some level. Not being willing to rationally discuss topics brings with it a certain danger not allowing for a full investigation of things.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)for a "full investigation of things"?
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)explanation. i asked a simple question. you did not answer.
are women and blacks and gays to be subjected to sexism, racism and homophobia as a valid point of view? are groups that fight for a cause to give equal weight to those that fight against their basic human rights.
niyad
(113,055 posts)rosesaylavee
(12,126 posts)This is the real world and bigotry should not be allowed or tolerated in any form.
JimboBillyBubbaBob
(1,389 posts)You are relying upon assumptions.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)must be welcomed and allowed or else we are what? i will have to look at your post again. just a minute, be right back
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)but not African Americans or gays? Why?
JimboBillyBubbaBob
(1,389 posts).....need to listen to other groups. Middle aged white guys need to shut up once in a while and listen to everyone else. Just this week, I had a poster call me a white, guilt laden apologist. This is my point, everyone not listening to anyone, gets very static like.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)If I have to listen to sexists, surely the NACCP must have to listen to White Supremacists?
You do know the key characteristic of a sexist or misogynist is a refusal to listen to women? So they talk and we are expected to listen, and never the other way.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)sexists. misogynists. and you are telling us we must listen or we censor adn that is bad. we need these differing ideas (sexism and misogyny).
so why would i not conclude that racism and homophobia are valid, viable ideas to be listened to also.
niyad
(113,055 posts)"varying viewpoints" to which the OP is referring. either that, or you think that shutting down discussion of women's rights by the snark and ugliness and outright hatred for women that is exhibited by some is okay. there is NO possible discussion with some, and you must be aware of that fact. if not, suggest perhaps you might want to acquaint yourself with some of the so-called "varying viewpoints of discussion" which we have seen over the years, and most especially in the last year or so.
JimboBillyBubbaBob
(1,389 posts).....and must admit that hateful language can be emotionally and psychologically debilitating. However, I refuse to give into such. Steadfastness in one's point of view, my promotion of civil rights for all for example, will be continued and in a peaceful manner.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)so, where is the problem or better, why the lecture.
JimboBillyBubbaBob
(1,389 posts)and thanks, it is greatly appreciated. Forgive the lecture approach please, just responding.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)manner that was absolute. you understand when coming into a group and making open statements that can be taken different ways, makes it very hard for someone to be on level ground. and when straight answers are not given to straight questions, it just simply makes it more fuzzy and confusing.
niyad
(113,055 posts)utterly patronizing, even if not consciously intended (and what does THAT say about motivation and expression?).
niyad
(113,055 posts)even on this board, whenever any issue, including rape, comes up. how about going into the men's rights group (a concept which makes me shake my head) and tell THEM that perhaps speaking in a moderate and civil tone would advance their views.
until then, quite frankly, I really do not want to hear, even from an academic standpoint, about how WOMEN are supposed to speak. we have been hearing that for millenia, and are absolutely sick of it. the reality is, does not matter HOW we speak, how deferentially, how diffidently, how meekly, how humbly, or with normal voices, there are those who hold their ears and scream at us for DARING to express ourselves.
noiretextatique
(27,275 posts)hlthe2b
(102,119 posts)As co-host of this group--a safe sanctuary group for feminists who agree to abide by the SOP linked at the top of the groups page (http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1255 ).
If you continue to disrupt, I will block you. 9/29/2013 10:39 AM MST
JimboBillyBubbaBob
(1,389 posts)I will not post further.
gtar100
(4,192 posts)judgment on persons without regard to who they really are. So unless the "discussion" is about defending your very right to self-determination and to not be subjugated by someone who only cares to use you for their own benefit, what would be the purpose of engaging with them. There is no real reason to even entertain the idea they have any legitimate claim to a valid perspective. They are wrong simply on the basis of their disrespect for human rights. When we allow that kind of attitude to remain and give it some level of legitimacy, it's allowing a poison into our minds and our culture. Racism and homophobia are on the same par as sexism. Yes, know what they are so you can recognize them even in their subtle forms, but don't raise them up to any sort of legitimacy. They are evidence of the ignorance that leads to hurting others and we do neither them nor ourselves any favors by pretending that their attitudes are normal.
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)literally or figuratively. In this case, MRA types invading feminist spaces and trying to tell them what's what.
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)the hosts of the group? Have no idea WHO you are ON about, btw.
JimboBillyBubbaBob
(1,389 posts)this is the point I'm attempting to address. This was featured on the main page, I didn't hunt the depths of DU seeking something to stir the pot about. What you folks are telling me is I can't post here because of a perceived difference of opinion. How does one advance their cause when not being willing to discuss that cause?
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)lost here. haha ... as usual
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)i am not gonna out someone cause i do not particularly believe in that.
this poster though seems to be telling us something but he doesnt want to come out and say it. leaving people to try and interpret what the fuck he is saying.
that is always an irritant for me.
JimboBillyBubbaBob
(1,389 posts)All I am saying is that I, as a male who has supported women's rights because they are human rights for over 45 years now, is that I reject the notion that I cannot have a view on a subject because I am not demographically a component of that subject.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)this group and cannot be the leadership of a feminist group. you can have all the views you want. and supporting womens right is the easy part of feminism. challenging male privilege and patriarchy is where the challenge comes in.
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)Mean What You Say.
Say What You Mean
and
Try NOT to be Mean when You Say It.
I fail at this a lot ... lol ... but, I try. That counts, right.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)and what is MY Idea of perfection anyway? who am I to determine perfection? that is dumb just on the face of it, right.
Anyway, this subthread is off on a tangent.
Not sure this thread is the right way to go about whatever/whomever you guys have an issue with.
or let me say that I would not go about it this way.
I would PM a host with my concerns and explain why ... include links to posts as evidence to why I believe said poster to be a disruptor.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)the only perfect person i knew was imperfect in her perfection. and that is an absolute truth.
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)your drift. haha, drift/sea ... I crack myself up sometimes
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)it so makes sense in my wonderfully fun and fuzzy brain. lol
gotta get to RL. things to do and about an hour behind.
see all later.
DURHAM D
(32,606 posts)the OP is not about you.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)yrs to throw up a sexist video. interesting that.
hlthe2b
(102,119 posts)if there is a problem with a "visiting" DUer not participating within the SOP for this group. While I have been quite busy recently and expect that BostonBean has similarly, I do try to check in daily... However, a cursory glance at threads did not make it clear to me to what/whom you might be referring.
You can PM me or BostonBean (or make a STATEMENT OF PURPOSE FOR THIS GROUP alert via the usual channels).
I can assure you that this will be far more immediate and direct-- while also avoiding serving up issues for others to use to agitate against this group and its members ...
Thanks.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)I rarely see you two around anymore.
If you have issues with either me or BostonBean, kindly engage in some private discourse with us via PM.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)that is your choice. I have intervened based on what I have thusfar seen from the poster, but would appreciate all using more direct alert channels in the future. Life intervenes sometimes and each of us have to step away on occasion.
If you feel as though we need additional co-hosts to fill the time that BB and I are not available, we would of course be happy to consider this. Drop BB or me a PM if you like.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)unless you think keeping it up is harmful to the group.
boston bean
(36,218 posts)of your sisters here, who host this group.
If you have a problem or concern, email me.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)I said I thought you were both great, but that I hadn't seen you around much. That's not a judgment. It's an observation.
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)our two women hosts go beyond that and not only explain, but they leave open the door for anyone who would like to discuss the block allowing a possibility of ending the block. it has happened in the past. they do not put up with shit, and they are very reasonable. but their priority appears to be this group and the women in this group, not every tom dick and harry.
they did not block the poster in question, to make it clear.
that i know of. i have been busy with dinner and company and a lovely time we had.
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)the person HAS to post in the group. That is the only way the host can block. They click on THAT post and block FROM THAT POST. They can not just choose ANY post on DU and block.
Their powers are only allotted to posts within the group that they host.
Once a person DOES post in here and if they choose to block that person then they click on the post in the group and an option appears for them to block ...
.
So0 they can not block someone even if they want to unless and until that person posts in the group
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)this group if they really wanted to. lol. but, i see. you are right. thanks for the correction.
and anyway. you know this job. me? too long ago. ages. and i forget yesterday.
you are right.
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)safe haven. Otherwise, they are entitled to post their ignorance and stupidity as they see fit and then the recourse is to take the questionable post to a jury and hope for the best.
I do not know if the person(s) in question has ever posted in here.
DURHAM D
(32,606 posts)Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)I am not sure how you all go about in here but, it would seem that if a majority of group members find the DUer in question to be disruptive and not conducive to productive conversation .... then the Hosts should have no problem with blocking said DUer.
boston bean
(36,218 posts)Someone pm me please.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)with like minds. and still keep the forum clear of misogynists. i will always have our hosts back. because though they may not be on du a lot, they created a place for us at a time we really needed it and we continue on, strong. they have our back
hlthe2b
(102,119 posts)And, as I suggested to Bainesbane, if the group feels a need for additional co-hosts during the times when BB and I can not be around, we would surely be open to that suggestion.
DURHAM D
(32,606 posts)I think you and BB do a great job.
I also think his self-promotion in HoF is a legitimate issue to discuss.
hlthe2b
(102,119 posts)thanks...
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)I would never say otherwise.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)unexpected directions.
that can always be fun
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)I've asked at least four times now.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)it leaves each of us to decide exactly what it says. which is unfortunate that a person that states ideas should be heard would leave so many in this quandary.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)Still, the subject itself is an interesting one.
PotatoChip
(3,186 posts)about 15 minutes before you started this thread. So I can't help but wonder if there is a problem what I posted? Please tell me if there is....
http://www.democraticunderground.com/125526713#post17
Or does this have to do with some other totally unrelated thing?
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)create an OP, just cause of your post. you are welcome. and you are fine. and no, it was not about you
PotatoChip
(3,186 posts)I really admire both you and BainsBain. Heck, I admire all of the regular posters here. So, I was worried that perhaps I had done something wrong.
I'm relieved to know that it was not the case. And hugs backatcha!
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)Totally unrelated. I hadn't seen your post before you directed me to it. I found it interesting.
PotatoChip
(3,186 posts)And I'm glad you liked the post. As I mentioned to seabeyond, I very much admire you guys! You have the guts to say what many of us other DU women are thinking, but are too intimidated to say to some of the misogynist regulars out there... I'm sure you know who I mean.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)i really appreciate the opportunity allowed to clear things up instead of misconceptions.
Demeter
(85,373 posts)who defined "radical feminism" as nothing less than misanthropy and lesbianism as a political choice.
There isn't time enough to deal with such.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)Feminism in general is misandry as far as some are concerned. We've had men come in this group and tell us as much. No, there isn't time to deal with that. Moreover, it's a lost cause. They refuse to listen. They've spent a lifetime tuning women out. We can't change that.
Spitfire of ATJ
(32,723 posts)I want to see it PASS.
Section 2. The Congress shall have the power to enforce, by appropriate legislation, the provisions of this article.
Section 3. This amendment shall take effect two years after the date of ratification.
The sad thing is a lot of people, including women, thought it already did pass.
Well?
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)It's a travesty that something so basic has not been able to pass. It's also disheartening to see Democrats recite points from Phyllis Schlafly.
ismnotwasm
(41,965 posts)I'm not sure what's going on, but I'm not "nice" today
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)and environmentalists, which is now nearing 500 posts.
ismnotwasm
(41,965 posts)It was clever in a way, because it's a 'lets play--fuck with the feminists thread', and the environmentalists stayed mostly silent. Unless that changed.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)The first version of my OP is clearer about who prompted this thread.
ismnotwasm
(41,965 posts)Figures. That's just sad.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)hlthe2b
(102,119 posts)Did you mean this: http://www.democraticunderground.com/10023735810 ?
If so, I share your disdain and in fact was one of two voting to hide on a jury that went 4-2 to keep. It was an intentionally flame-baiting and ugly thread and I agree that this DUer has no business posting in this group with this attitude, as has been the case in the past--with a fair amount of snark.. They have been blocked.
I'm afraid I was confused earlier....
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)and my irritation with a particular poster in that thread who sees fit to lecture us about which forms of feminism we should support and even tell us what "wave" we are. I'm not a fucking wave. I'm a person with my own ideas and I get to decide what feminism means to me, and if I don't like the fawning over FEMEN, I have a right to say so. And I am sick of his hawking his radio show in here.
NuclearDem
(16,184 posts)What I took away from it is that poster just thought he, as a white male, was more qualified to speak on feminism than female feminists.
He also seemed to assume all of feminism is homogenous and thus must agree with FEMEN to be called feminists.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)that I have some hidden reason for not loving FEMEN? What do you suppose that is? They are hotter than me? Of course they are. They are half my age. So what? Now "true feminism" is supposed to be measured by how hot some idiot finds a woman? Fuck that.
DURHAM D
(32,606 posts)I think the problem goes back to The Great DU Fem War when he (like many) decided that HoF posters as a group are evil and they made a lot of broad (wrong) assumptions. The feminists have all moved way beyond that period but a few of the guys are still stuck and one or two (including other participants in that thread) have retained a notion of good feminists vs. bad feminists.
So it goes to their personal obsession of looking for points of separation rather than points of agreement among women because they like to meddle and throw gas on the fire and probably think they are protecting some that don't know their own mines or don't speak up.
It does get harder and harder for them to have their fun and as we know some guys are just really really threatened by women working in concert because we just might take over the world.
ismnotwasm
(41,965 posts)But your probably right, it's reactionary, emotional behavior, much like what women were once accused of if they're not outright misogynists. There's a few floating around in the toilet bowel still.
The ones that wonder in from the greatest page usually don't understand the background of bulling harassment and derailing of threads that occurs.
redqueen
(115,103 posts)are posted on DU.
I'm done with that thread, so much stupidity and willful ignorance. It's fucking shameful.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)Or at some point in the past?
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)redqueen
(115,103 posts)I don't hold grudges, but I will not forget that bullshit.
When someone not only ignores the kind of anti-feminist propaganda that's shared here, but then goes a step further and tries to silence the only people calling the propaganda out... that really says a whole hell of a lot to me. A whole HELL of a lot... about them and anyone who lined up to support their attempt to silence those who called out the hateful shit.
BainsBane
(53,012 posts)can see that stuff is posted here.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)he probably petitioned to get unblocked and has behaved in this forum. but, if i remember, he came in with his third wave swagger of sex positive and felt the need to diss our sexuality the way some men like to play that stupid, immature game, women against women. i lost all respect for him. literally, all. we used to have discussion and it was fine in disagreement, but that was petty.
he seems to have done that with you
it is catty. petty. a little person that snidely will challenge a womans sexuality in that manner. a nasty person.
i thought maybe he had grown up a bit, but guess not. he is like the mean girl in this behavior.
i pretty much stop reading his posts when he did that the first time. there is just no place for that behavior.
fuck it. he is mostly ignored. and that femen issue about says it all. boobies, so believe whatever lie is told. if that is all it takes, sad sad. whatever.
MadrasT
(7,237 posts)Who wants to run that line of shit is on permanent "ignore" in my mind.
Do they not realize how utterly transparent and absurd it is for a heterosexual man to be lecturing women about how women are supposed to behave when it comes to anything related to sexuality?
It is literally impossible for them to be objective; therefore, what they say simply does not matter to me.
In my mind, they are all petulant three-year-olds throwing a fit.
PassingFair
(22,434 posts)Mostly men in there anyway.
Ironically.