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bluesbassman

(19,356 posts)
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 06:10 PM Feb 2014

I'm sorry, but this group is abusing it's "privilege".

Being a "protected" group is not a license to call out other DUers, promote stalking and intimidation of other DUers, and denigrate entire groups of DUers. Yet in numerous threads listed on the first page of this group all three of those things are being not only done, but applauded and encouraged.

While the promotion of the concepts and ideals of feminism are an absolutely timely and laudable endeavor and many threads here do just that, the fact that this group has adopted a "Meta" cross-purpose and uses it's protected status to limit accountability is an insult to the the idea of a protected group. Yes there legitimate issues occurring on DU that should be addressed and discussed, but using HoF as a shield to say and promote things that one would not in an open forum is no better than those issues that are causing the problems.

As far as I can remember, this is my first post in this group. I fully anticipate that this OP will be alerted on and or locked per your "protected group" SOP, and I also anticipate that I will soon join your blocked member group. So be it. In the mean time, I have shown a small ray of light on the unfortunate direction this group has taken.

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I'm sorry, but this group is abusing it's "privilege". (Original Post) bluesbassman Feb 2014 OP
I have a suggestion. seaglass Feb 2014 #1
Heh! ismnotwasm Feb 2014 #15
THANK YOU! redqueen Feb 2014 #25
Thank YOU! smirkymonkey Feb 2014 #102
Oof, that's going to leave a dent Scootaloo Feb 2014 #29
Amen. n/t JTFrog Feb 2014 #34
Har de har har har... CTyankee Feb 2014 #39
Thank you for posting those. Seeing the names that are in control in that area of DU... Sarah Ibarruri Feb 2014 #47
Sauce for the goose etc. etc. nomorenomore08 Feb 2014 #80
Are you confused? n/t seaglass Feb 2014 #83
No, I was agreeing with the sentiment that the OP should've been posted in other Groups as well. nomorenomore08 Feb 2014 #84
OK thanks I didn't understand what the shrugging was about. n/t seaglass Feb 2014 #85
LOL DURHAM D Feb 2014 #2
Thanks, Dad gollygee Feb 2014 #3
I hope he is not blocked. DURHAM D Feb 2014 #4
Weren't you blocked from LGBT at some point? DURHAM D Feb 2014 #5
I have never posted in the LGBT, nor have I been blocked from that or any other group. bluesbassman Feb 2014 #10
bb, we have worked well together in the past.. but you seem oblivious to what hlthe2b Feb 2014 #6
Thank you hlthe2b, yes we have worked well together. bluesbassman Feb 2014 #12
accusing people of "abusing their privilege" geek tragedy Feb 2014 #19
Surely you must know that directing a blanket denunciation at a group (sans any specifics) hlthe2b Feb 2014 #21
In no way did I attempt to blame HoF members for "all the ills of DU". bluesbassman Feb 2014 #36
Thanks for reading the SOP boston bean Feb 2014 #40
Funny, because you defended one of the worst call out threads BainsBane Feb 2014 #48
Nailed it! Sheldon Cooper Feb 2014 #52
Would those be your uncomfortable truths and does everyone have to believe in and adhere to louslobbs Feb 2014 #35
Hi, hlthe2b. You and I have also worked well together in the past... Violet_Crumble Feb 2014 #51
I hope that since you are not blocked from the Men's Group you will share the same sentiments seaglass Feb 2014 #53
Interesting how the "concern" people voice about this group MadrasT Feb 2014 #54
I post in the Feminists group, and I have expressed the same concerns there... Violet_Crumble Feb 2014 #55
I remember well the ill feelings when this group was created as I was one who had them, seaglass Feb 2014 #56
Good post. n/t JTFrog Feb 2014 #62
Oh, YOU'RE the one who posts there! PassingFair Feb 2014 #63
Violent, I hope we can count on you BainsBane Feb 2014 #61
You call out people in GD all the time, Violet. boston bean Feb 2014 #65
No I don't. I'm not into doing call outs... Violet_Crumble Feb 2014 #82
A call out is a call out, whether done personally to another DUer boston bean Feb 2014 #86
If call outs in HOF are okay. tammywammy Feb 2014 #91
tammy, call outs are basically ok everywhere all over DU boston bean Feb 2014 #92
This is my position as well. hlthe2b Feb 2014 #93
I wasn't referring to the rest of DU. tammywammy Feb 2014 #98
I'm not removing it. boston bean Feb 2014 #99
Not sure what prompted this BainsBane Feb 2014 #7
If you think something is inappropriate, alert. MadrasT Feb 2014 #8
And naturally the biggest problem on DU BainsBane Feb 2014 #9
You are attempting to put words in my mouth and have made an unsubstantiated claim. bluesbassman Feb 2014 #13
I have no idea what you are talking about BainsBane Feb 2014 #14
What do you mean by "promote stalking and intimidation"? BainsBane Feb 2014 #16
Here. bluesbassman Feb 2014 #24
Seriously? There is an almost daily call for HoF sufrommich Feb 2014 #27
I see BainsBane Feb 2014 #28
Shit son, you just described the daily operation of I/P Scootaloo Feb 2014 #30
I have to agree with the others that you are exercising selective outrage BainsBane Feb 2014 #33
No it doesn't. If I want to talk shit I use other mediums ismnotwasm Feb 2014 #11
Apparently we are not acting like LADIES. DURHAM D Feb 2014 #17
Ick. I'm not going to respond to this thread anymore. ismnotwasm Feb 2014 #20
I have to confess that I'm curious about what set him off BainsBane Feb 2014 #23
Thank you for the "small ray of light" you've shown to this group. Sheldon Cooper Feb 2014 #18
GFY. JTFrog Feb 2014 #22
I love DU feminist Notafraidtoo Feb 2014 #26
Welcome to HoF. sufrommich Feb 2014 #32
Your concern is noted. Tien1985 Feb 2014 #31
This message was self-deleted by its author YoungDemCA Feb 2014 #37
Actually, from my experience with him on MIRT BainsBane Feb 2014 #38
Baines Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #41
True, and I spend very little time in the lounge BainsBane Feb 2014 #42
I am so glad we have finally been given some guidance about proper behavior. I was worried for us. Squinch Feb 2014 #43
OK I am laughing my ass off at all the innocents recommending this thread. seaglass Feb 2014 #44
LOL BainsBane Feb 2014 #45
LMAO, some of those names have been grinding axes for *years* now. redqueen Feb 2014 #50
I'd like to say something. Sarah Ibarruri Feb 2014 #46
AGREED. -- Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #64
You're right. I unrec'd. I had originally rec'd because I wanted my post to be considered... Sarah Ibarruri Feb 2014 #79
I agree with you. cinnabonbon Feb 2014 #69
Yes, even a moderate lib wouldn't say the ugly things these people say Sarah Ibarruri Feb 2014 #78
You are absolutely right. There are more and more posts that are virtually undistinguishable Squinch Feb 2014 #76
Yup, a leopard can't hide its spots, and neither can right wingers Sarah Ibarruri Feb 2014 #77
let me guess ... Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #49
Step away from the internet JustAnotherGen Feb 2014 #57
good advice the other 13 as well ...(updated to reflect the changes) Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #58
I think Sarah's rec is by mistake BainsBane Feb 2014 #59
I thought that name looked out of place. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #60
I hate to be the bearer of bad news but TheMathieu has sadly departed the premises. It appears seaglass Feb 2014 #66
,,, lol ,,, so sad/Not! Tombstone reads = Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #67
I'm shocked. Really. BainsBane Feb 2014 #68
Oh my God. I love that baby girl. sufrommich Feb 2014 #72
wow, that latest incarnation lasted three whole weeks. niyad Feb 2014 #88
I rec'd because OKNancy Feb 2014 #71
No ismnotwasm Feb 2014 #73
Just making use of the tools provided to us by DU3. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #75
You're in agreement with people going into protected groups and posting lectures... PassingFair Feb 2014 #90
There are people out there? Agschmid Feb 2014 #70
You forget BainsBane Feb 2014 #74
Posting this to one of the most maligned groups on DU seems a bit ironic, frankly. nomorenomore08 Feb 2014 #81
PLEASE tell me that you simply forgot the sarcasm thingy, because you cannot niyad Feb 2014 #87
bluebassman, I thought better of you UtahLib Feb 2014 #89
Did he start another one or do you mean the one about me? nt redqueen Feb 2014 #94
Yes, the one gleefully slamming you and HOF. nt UtahLib Feb 2014 #95
Callouts against feminists are okay BainsBane Feb 2014 #96
They're sure ok with two people who despite a demonstrated hostility toward certain feminist issues redqueen Feb 2014 #97
very.interesting. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #100
for you bluesbassman, Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #101

redqueen

(115,096 posts)
25. THANK YOU!
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 07:15 PM
Feb 2014

OMG what a noxious, steaming load!

He let loose a stream of something yellow in here all right, but it sure as shit ain't fuckin sunshine.

nomorenomore08

(13,324 posts)
84. No, I was agreeing with the sentiment that the OP should've been posted in other Groups as well.
Thu Feb 20, 2014, 07:48 AM
Feb 2014

Because HoF members are far from the only ones guilty of caricaturing or misrepresenting others - as I said, this is one of the most maligned Groups on DU.

DURHAM D

(32,603 posts)
2. LOL
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 06:13 PM
Feb 2014

I really did laugh out loud.

Thanks for the lecture. I really needed that. Much appreciated.

See ya' shug.

DURHAM D

(32,603 posts)
4. I hope he is not blocked.
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 06:17 PM
Feb 2014

Last edited Tue Feb 18, 2014, 07:18 PM - Edit history (1)

We can all enjoy a little relief.


6:16 pm Time to Edit: Disregard this post.

DURHAM D

(32,603 posts)
5. Weren't you blocked from LGBT at some point?
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 06:19 PM
Feb 2014

Did you give them the same lecture or was it something else.

hlthe2b

(102,057 posts)
6. bb, we have worked well together in the past.. but you seem oblivious to what
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 06:19 PM
Feb 2014

is going on in GD in recent days and weeks. That is what is being reacted to and this group has EVERY right to discuss it. Obviously all are expect to respect both DU community standards AND the SOP for this group.

Your posting here seems to be an angry call out to a segment of DU--specifically this group. It needs to stop. Disagree civilly or yes, you will be blocked from the group.

Here is the SOP for this group for your review:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/12553074

bluesbassman

(19,356 posts)
12. Thank you hlthe2b, yes we have worked well together.
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 06:37 PM
Feb 2014

While I admit that my OP stated some uncomfortable truths, please indicate which parts were uncivil?

And no, I am not oblivious to what has been transpiring in GD. It's not healthy discussion from many viewpoints.

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
19. accusing people of "abusing their privilege"
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 06:58 PM
Feb 2014

bonus points for doing that as a man while directing it towards women

You also may not be aware of this, but your post was a textbook example of 'mansplaining' right down to the arrogant "ray of light" comment at the end.

hlthe2b

(102,057 posts)
21. Surely you must know that directing a blanket denunciation at a group (sans any specifics)
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 07:08 PM
Feb 2014

is not going to go over well. It isn't fair and smacks of blaming the feminist women of DU for all the ills of DU--including their justifiable reactions to those (who through their words and actions) do not respect feminist women nor women in general..

If you see a post that you find to be in violation of the DU community standards, then by all means alert.

bluesbassman

(19,356 posts)
36. In no way did I attempt to blame HoF members for "all the ills of DU".
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 07:35 PM
Feb 2014

I am addressing the fact that this group is abusing it's status as a protected group, and in fact is violating it's own Member SOP.

Rules

There are some very basic rules all participants are expected to follow:

1) No bringing personal fights/issues/problems from other groups or past grievances with a particular member or members to this group
2) No individual personal call outs of any DUer
3) Be respectful at all times, even if an opinion is at odds with that of another poster
4) No bullying


As far as specifics, I will not link to posts that call out other DUers as that would further promote those call outs. However, it's fairly easy to scan through the threads and view them.

I did however link to a post that specifically describes the intentions of the poster to stalk and harass another DU member. That alone is a clear violation of the group Member SOP.

boston bean

(36,217 posts)
40. Thanks for reading the SOP
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 08:43 PM
Feb 2014

But you went right ahead and broke rule # 1,2,3.

Thinks it's best to let you have your say and let others respond. No need for blocking you at this time. See how that works. You broke the rules and you can still post here. WOW!

BainsBane

(53,010 posts)
48. Funny, because you defended one of the worst call out threads
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 01:06 AM
Feb 2014

On DU in recent weeks, the one promoting a witch hunt against TarheelDem. In light of that, your sudden concern for callouts seems odd. I'm not sure who you are thinking of, but I have to wonder why you think some DUers deserve to be called out while others don't? You yourself called out JustAnotherGen and decided to call out an entire group because, you say, you didn't like one of her posts. Yet you show absolutely no concern for the other call out threads that you have been shown here. Why is that? Is there some list of DUers who matter and those who don't that we should consult to guide our behavior? We know African Americans and HOF members are fair game, since the continual callouts of those posters are never judged inappropriate, as you yourself determined in the epic GD call out thread. And you haven't chastised the men's group for their many callouts by name, or those in GD who call out members of this group by name with great frequency. Should I assume the DUers who matter are all white and male, or is there some other criteria that I'm not discerning? It would be helpful to have a list.

louslobbs

(3,226 posts)
35. Would those be your uncomfortable truths and does everyone have to believe in and adhere to
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 07:34 PM
Feb 2014

to them as the truth....or is it ok if not everyone shares your truths and examples of sunshine?
Lou

Violet_Crumble

(35,955 posts)
51. Hi, hlthe2b. You and I have also worked well together in the past...
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 02:58 AM
Feb 2014

Both in MIRT, and in this group as hosts. You know I have the utmost respect for you and boston bean, and while I know that you two and a few others will listen and reply civilly, I know from experience that there's going to be a few replies from others that are anything but civil...

I think there's a difference between reacting to something going on in GD and calling out other DUers. The former is fine and totally understandable, but the latter isn't, especially when it's in a group they can't respond in because they've been blocked, or would be blocked if they responded. The difference between the two is basically what Skinner has told GD hosts when it comes to the subject of what is and isn't 'whining about DU'. Expressing disgust for some of the OPs and posts that have been posted in GD over the past few days isn't calling out other DUers, but when someone attacks another DUer who's a woman and says that she's probably not even a woman, then that's a call-out, especially when they make it crystal clear who they're talking about. That sort of stuff is nasty, and having been involved along with you and BB in putting together the SOP of this group, I thought it was included in the SOP as something that wasn't supposed to be allowed in HoF. The person who posted that wasn't asked to self-delete their post or told that call-outs of individual DUers weren't allowed, and I think they should have been. I know you both are busy and aren't all over everything posted in this group, but the sad thing is that there's probably a few members of this group who see nothing wrong with call-outs like that and would accuse me of trying to tell women what to do, blah blah blah.

Anyway, as I have a lot of respect for you and BB, I won't put either of you in a position where you'd have to consider blocking me from the group, so I won't respond to replies from anyone if they decide to get their snark on. I just felt it was important to point out the difference between discussion of something going on in GD and call-outs of other DUers...

*peace*

seaglass

(8,171 posts)
53. I hope that since you are not blocked from the Men's Group you will share the same sentiments
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 07:50 AM
Feb 2014

there.

This is why I think the OPs post is a joke - and why I pointed him to:

a.) another group who does the same exact thing but does not get called out for it
b.) the appropriate place to complain about it

Not snarking at all Violet but I am getting damn sick of people who only see what they want to see.

MadrasT

(7,237 posts)
54. Interesting how the "concern" people voice about this group
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 08:01 AM
Feb 2014

seems to be confined to being about this group.

Violet_Crumble

(35,955 posts)
55. I post in the Feminists group, and I have expressed the same concerns there...
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 08:09 AM
Feb 2014

It was a thread about the Amanda Knox thing where someone called out another DUer by name. And apart from briefly drooling over Eddie Vedder and taking on the now departed Pabs when he called me out in both the Mens and the LGBT Group, I don't participate there. But having helped write the SOP for this group and having been one of the original hosts, I do have a vested interest in this group, which is why I'm pointing it out.

Back when I was a host here, the ill-feeling and generalisations about this group were far worse than they are now. It used to really shit me to see the group attacked as though it was the equivalent of Stormfront or something, and I still dislike seeing the group attacked. But when I read and see call outs like the one I mentioned in my previous post, I see that as not only nasty, but giving those who hate the group ammunition for their scatter guns. I know the vast majority of DUers who participate in this group don't do it, and hopefully the ones who do will get the idea it's not a really good thing to do...

I know yr not snarking, seaglass. We get on well, which is why I think it's important to let you know that in my case there's a good reason for criticising it in this group...

seaglass

(8,171 posts)
56. I remember well the ill feelings when this group was created as I was one who had them,
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 10:09 AM
Feb 2014

but I have since understood what I did not understand at the time. And on that note, my apologies to members of this group for any hurtful statements I had made to you in the past.

I was not trying to say you are a MG participant, just that you have a non-antagonist relationship with that group.

Perhaps your post would have been more appropriate in a PM if it is all about protecting this group from the ire of others. As it is now, with your post and recommendation for this thread it looks like more piling on. I have seen some of your recent comments in GD to HoF members and it does seem more like you are joining in the attacks rather than trying to help those you feel an affinity to. IMO those remarks would have been more beneficial as PMs if your goal is support vs. attack. Obviously we all have different views of what is supportive and what is not. In the current environment I am not going to publicly call out anyone in this group if I disagree because I do not find it helpful.

I abhor the one-sided nature of this thread and agreement to it because I know that I have been called out in the Men's Group as have rq, sea, TA, Baines and probably others. Many comments are made in that group discretely referring to members here. While they may think they have plausible deniability because they don't always use names and thus avoid juries, the women in this group are not stupid nor paranoid. I know the MG does not have many participants and maybe people feel it is too boring or something to read through their threads and that is why they are unaware of the games being played.

BainsBane

(53,010 posts)
61. Violent, I hope we can count on you
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 11:57 AM
Feb 2014

to speak out about the callouts of members of this group, by name, that occur in GD and VandM with some frequency. Obviously the men's group makes a habit of that sort of thing, but they seem to get a pass for virtually anything.

boston bean

(36,217 posts)
65. You call out people in GD all the time, Violet.
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 01:47 PM
Feb 2014

Some of your responses to Sea beyond had me scratching my head.

No one is perfect. Sometimes things are said that are heated. Do I wish that people would be a bit more careful in their postings, yes.

But the hostility this group faces out in GD and other areas leads me to leave this pretty much open for people to make their case, so they have a voice. If a jury wants to hide, I am sure it will. This place is alert stalked, whether you want to believe it or not. If someone can't post in here, they can still alert. If a jury let's it stay, well then, that's just the way DU is, right? Not that I agree with juries, but that is our system as it stands today and something we all need to work with. It's no different for anyone in here.

Hope you can understand. Thanks for the post.

Violet_Crumble

(35,955 posts)
82. No I don't. I'm not into doing call outs...
Thu Feb 20, 2014, 07:31 AM
Feb 2014

I'm one of those blunt and direct types and if I've got something to say I'll say it directly to people. I respond to people's posts in GD and disagree with them at times, which last time I checked is allowed everywhere at DU, but that's not calling someone out...

I think we're going to have to agree to disagree on call outs. I just don't think calling out another DUer, especially where they can't respond, is making a case for anything much. I guess I feel strongly about it because it's been done to me in the past. Further downthread, I notice that someone has copied and pasted a list of people who rec'd the OP. I'm on the list and I guess them doing that isn't a call-out, but merely a bit weird, especially when they say about those of us who rec'd it: 'what does that say about the rest of them ... that it is so .... noticeable ....' What it says about me is that I have a tendency to rec OPs I agree with, but I have a sneaking suspicion that the person who said that isn't familiar with the other list I'm on in this group and what she's thinking is probably along the lines of trolls or misogynists or something like that.

boston bean

(36,217 posts)
86. A call out is a call out, whether done personally to another DUer
Thu Feb 20, 2014, 09:35 AM
Feb 2014

or in a sub thread, high fiving each other over the calling out of another out or piling it the fuck on. I've seen plenty of that, believe me. I don't think you could consider yourself innocent in those types of activities. Again, no one is perfect. But at least let's get real.

You might want to make the distinction that one can't respond to here, because they are blocked.

However, they can alert. Anyone can alert.

Listen, I've been called out so many times and have it not get hidden, that I don't even bother alerting or even responding most of the time. It's just not worth the trouble and aggravation to see it be upheld by a jury.

So yes, call outs suck. But with this system we have, I'm not going to go tying the hands of anyone in here who has a valid grievance. If a jury decides to hide it, so be it.

tammywammy

(26,582 posts)
91. If call outs in HOF are okay.
Thu Feb 20, 2014, 01:56 PM
Feb 2014

Which it seems like you say they are, you should just edit your HOF Member SOP & Rules.

boston bean

(36,217 posts)
92. tammy, call outs are basically ok everywhere all over DU
Thu Feb 20, 2014, 02:07 PM
Feb 2014

most of the time they are left by juries and rarely locked by any host.

Again, this group will be run like the rest of DU with the rules that DU has in place at this time. The community will decide.

If someone wants to take a chance with a call out thread here, they are risking a hide.

I won't be changing anything in the SOP. And this group is for likeminded people, so if someone were to come in here and disrupt and if their post is not hidden by a jury, I will lock it myself, and/or probably block the person.

I'm not going to make the rules here different than they are for everyone else on DU.

In actuality, this OP that we are typing in is a call out thread.

I don't like callouts, I've been victimized by them and they are allowed to stand. This type of things does lower us all, but hell, I'm not going to tie any member of this groups hands make them stay silent in the face of attacks. Also, I'm not going to get into a game with what is a call out and what is not. Many posts in here are about posts we see as sexist or misogynistic. That is absolute fair game for this group. HoF and its members are called out constantly in GD. I don't see you or violet asking that it not be done. Why the double standard?

If DU decides with community standards that they don't want call outs and they are started to be hidden or locked on a consistent basis, then this is back up for discussion.

hlthe2b

(102,057 posts)
93. This is my position as well.
Thu Feb 20, 2014, 02:27 PM
Feb 2014

I wish things were different on DU--I truly do. With the closure of META I had hope that some of this would cease. Perhaps it did for a very brief period.

DUers have a right to defend themselves--against misinterpretation or outright misrepresentation. HOF members do as well. As BostonBean has already stated, the majority of these involve instances of overt misogyny and indefensible ugliness/disrespect to women. If in the process of discussing these issues, those posting these ugly threads and posts are able to be identified by those who take the time to look, so be it.

tammywammy

(26,582 posts)
98. I wasn't referring to the rest of DU.
Thu Feb 20, 2014, 03:24 PM
Feb 2014

I understand that some juries allow call outs. All I'm saying is that the rules you have for this specific group says no call outs. If that's changed for this group, and obviously you're saying since it's allowed elsewhere you'll allow it here, then it should be removed from the rules.

The rules for GD do not specifically say no call outs. The rules you've created for here specifically says it. And I'm not sayin call outs are okay, I don't think they are - anywhere.

Of course if someone is disruptive you can and should ban them from your group.

boston bean

(36,217 posts)
99. I'm not removing it.
Thu Feb 20, 2014, 04:16 PM
Feb 2014

Hosts make decisions on what is disruptive to this group. If one is disruptive to this group, I will lock it.

BainsBane

(53,010 posts)
7. Not sure what prompted this
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 06:20 PM
Feb 2014

but if what you read in here upsets you, there are two remedies available to you: 1) alert on the offending post; or 2) trash this group. I have done the latter with the men's group, even though (and because) it means I miss out on all kinds of gossip about me personally. The upside is I'm much happier as a result.

MadrasT

(7,237 posts)
8. If you think something is inappropriate, alert.
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 06:21 PM
Feb 2014

But coming in here and dumping a lecture on us with no prior participation in the group is not conducive to anyone wanting to take your opinion seriously.

BainsBane

(53,010 posts)
9. And naturally the biggest problem on DU
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 06:24 PM
Feb 2014

is that feminists have far too influence. I mean, just look at all those threads we've posted showing men in g strings. Oh, wait. They weren't men. They were women in bikinis, or less, and they weren't posted by members of this group at all.

As for Meta, have you been to GD anytime in the past six months? I recall quite recently your defending a post that called out and denounced a fellow DUer by name, yet there is something here--I'm not sure what--that you consider too Meta? Yet that witch hunt wasn't?

bluesbassman

(19,356 posts)
13. You are attempting to put words in my mouth and have made an unsubstantiated claim.
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 06:41 PM
Feb 2014

I am discussing a current phenomenon peculiar to the HoF group. You are attempting to deflect that discussion to another area.

BainsBane

(53,010 posts)
14. I have no idea what you are talking about
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 06:42 PM
Feb 2014

You haven't said. All I know is you mentioned Meta. Why is that particular kind of discussion forbidden here and no where else on the site? Who put you in charge anyway?

BainsBane

(53,010 posts)
16. What do you mean by "promote stalking and intimidation"?
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 06:46 PM
Feb 2014

That sounds a lot like the thread the Men's Group has about Tuesday Afternoon, calling her out by name. I know of no such discussion like that here. Why don't you link to the posts that bother you so we at least know what this is about?

bluesbassman

(19,356 posts)
24. Here.
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 07:10 PM
Feb 2014
http://www.democraticunderground.com/125537456#post29

Star Member JustAnotherGen (9,369 posts)
29. If I write anything on this thread

It will be alerted on. I'm pissed to high holy hell at DU today.

So I support you. I agree. And I will not write anything to bring a ruckus or chaos into HOF today.

Wait - one thing I want to write . . . The "I'm so innocent playing stupid" thing - they aren't getting away with it. They will alert on seabeyond - but they won't on me. I make certain of it. I choose my words carefully.

But they aren't ALL getting away with it. And it's my intent to make the life of one DU'er in particular - with his casual mockery of women's and minority issues - so miserable at DU that he just stops logging on. I've got the same bead on him that I did a few of the Zimpig supporters and three of them have not been back since September.

sufrommich

(22,871 posts)
27. Seriously? There is an almost daily call for HoF
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 07:17 PM
Feb 2014

members to be culled from DU. By all means,alert on any post here for whatever reason you like,you have lots of company.

BainsBane

(53,010 posts)
28. I see
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 07:20 PM
Feb 2014

Well I think that for that to constitute promotion of stalking and intimidation, we would have to know who she is talking about. I do not. I would call it a rather unwise admission of intent to intimidate, but knowing Gen's posts, I highly doubt the poster she is thinking of will perceive it as intimidation. I don't know that she has ever had a post hidden.

Compare that to this thread: http://www.democraticunderground.com/111411793

Or this one for which you expressed support: http://www.democraticunderground.com/10024457003

I consider both clear and obvious witch hunts where the accused transgressors are named.

I can see why you found that comment troubling, but it seems to me the appropriate response would have been to alert, respond to JustAnotherGen's post, or to PM her. We are not a single Cylon entity, all connected through a shared consciousness. We didn't get together and write the post as a collective. No one but me is responsible for what I say, and I am not responsible for what anyone else says, even the people I adore like JustAnotherGen.

I will also observe that some have set out to create a hostile environment on DU for feminists and African Americans. Being both, Gen understandably feels aggrieved, and she certainly isn't alone in that.

 

Scootaloo

(25,699 posts)
30. Shit son, you just described the daily operation of I/P
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 07:24 PM
Feb 2014

You think you've found some high-class, grade-A, newfangled ammo there, don'cha? Hoo whee!

BainsBane

(53,010 posts)
33. I have to agree with the others that you are exercising selective outrage
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 07:30 PM
Feb 2014

and overlooking far more serious, frequent occurrences.

ismnotwasm

(41,952 posts)
11. No it doesn't. If I want to talk shit I use other mediums
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 06:35 PM
Feb 2014

Unconnected with DU. We have a problem here, and it's not this group.
What in particular is bothering you?

ismnotwasm

(41,952 posts)
20. Ick. I'm not going to respond to this thread anymore.
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 07:03 PM
Feb 2014

Last edited Wed Feb 19, 2014, 01:54 PM - Edit history (2)

There are a number of other topics on board here, I don't get the point so I'm not going to feed it.

I alone, and amongst many others start a number of threads on a variety of feminist topics so the premise is wrong from the start. Venting after a long couple of difficult day is not 'abusing" anything. I don't understand and I'm not going to play.


BainsBane

(53,010 posts)
23. I have to confess that I'm curious about what set him off
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 07:08 PM
Feb 2014

I really don't understand where this is coming from.

Sheldon Cooper

(3,724 posts)
18. Thank you for the "small ray of light" you've shown to this group.
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 06:55 PM
Feb 2014

I'll put that where I put all the other "rays of light" that get shone here:

'


But seriously, your arrogance and conceit is astounding. I just wish it was also rare. Unfortunately, it's not. At least not around here. But go ahead and thrust that chest out, for you, good sir, have really taught us a lesson. Well done!

 

JTFrog

(14,274 posts)
22. GFY.
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 07:08 PM
Feb 2014

Good for you.

Coming and shitting in the middle of the group like that. Don't forget to flush.



Notafraidtoo

(402 posts)
26. I love DU feminist
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 07:16 PM
Feb 2014

I am a man and not once DU feminist said one thing i found offensive, I love people who fight for equality perhaps you are the problem.

Response to bluesbassman (Original post)

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
41. Baines
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 09:51 PM
Feb 2014

The lounge is the go to place for this kind of crap. How many times have you seen it posted - this belongs in the lounge. I still don't understand why this type of behavior is encouraged anywhere on this site.

Squinch

(50,890 posts)
43. I am so glad we have finally been given some guidance about proper behavior. I was worried for us.
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 10:41 PM
Feb 2014

He told us there are legitimate things we can talk about. I hope he tells us soon what they are so we can get right on that.

...I'm really confused about appropriate skirt lengths too...

redqueen

(115,096 posts)
50. LMAO, some of those names have been grinding axes for *years* now.
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 02:12 AM
Feb 2014

Meanwhile they ain't got jack shit to say about the links you shared in post 1 - or worse they're part of the 'stalking' and whateverthefuckhesaid... was it really 'threatening'?

Fucking hell...




Thankfully more and more people are catching on.

Sarah Ibarruri

(21,043 posts)
46. I'd like to say something.
Tue Feb 18, 2014, 11:23 PM
Feb 2014

I honestly believe that there are certain people who enter DU under false pretenses, pretending to be lib, but actually being right wing. It is these people who are rabidly anti-feminist, and you can identify them pretty easily by what they say because ultimately, a right winger's true ideology always comes out.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
64. AGREED. --
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 01:05 PM
Feb 2014

Sarah, you might want to rethink your rec of this thread ... in context with what is going on here and it looks like you are in solidarity with the recs. If you are actually in solidarity with them, fine. If not,


birds of a feather ....


doors.


yanno.

Sarah Ibarruri

(21,043 posts)
79. You're right. I unrec'd. I had originally rec'd because I wanted my post to be considered...
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 08:49 PM
Feb 2014

that these people are nothing but right wingers signing on DU, but it's not worth a rec for that. Better to just post a new message elsewhere.

Sarah Ibarruri

(21,043 posts)
78. Yes, even a moderate lib wouldn't say the ugly things these people say
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 08:47 PM
Feb 2014

So why do these people sound exactly like right wingers? There's only one explanation, they are right wingers that signed on here pretending not to be right wingers.

Squinch

(50,890 posts)
76. You are absolutely right. There are more and more posts that are virtually undistinguishable
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 07:01 PM
Feb 2014

from posts in Teabagger sites, especially with respect to women and African Americans.

However, as those posts increase in number, so do the numbers of posters saying that isn't acceptable. SO at least there is that.

Sarah Ibarruri

(21,043 posts)
77. Yup, a leopard can't hide its spots, and neither can right wingers
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 08:45 PM
Feb 2014

So we can detect them a mile away.

JustAnotherGen

(31,769 posts)
57. Step away from the internet
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 10:23 AM
Feb 2014

It's only a web site.

You should have taken this up with Admin direct but I really hope this doesn't go away or get locked. I think it serves as an example of people who need to get outside, connect with people face to face, etc. etc.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
58. good advice the other 13 as well ...(updated to reflect the changes)
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 11:46 AM
Feb 2014

Last edited Thu Feb 20, 2014, 12:31 AM - Edit history (3)

4now quinnox TheMathieu lumberjack_jeff pintobean pacalo one_voice PDittie OKNancy In_The_Wind MisterP Violet_Crumble jollyreaper2112 Vinnie From Indy


because, No they are not Sorry.

and

Doors



BainsBane

(53,010 posts)
59. I think Sarah's rec is by mistake
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 11:51 AM
Feb 2014

She's a strong feminist, from the little I've seen her post. Ism had accidentally rec'd the thread at one point yesterday after going to see who the recommenders were.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
60. I thought that name looked out of place.
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 11:54 AM
Feb 2014

and really, Baines ... what does that say about the rest of them ... that it is so .... noticeable ....

OKNancy

(41,832 posts)
71. I rec'd because
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 05:23 PM
Feb 2014

I like bluesbassman and I am in solidarity with one_voice.

By posting this list and calling out those who rec'd.. aren't you doing exactly what the OP wrote?

ismnotwasm

(41,952 posts)
73. No
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 05:35 PM
Feb 2014

We are often backed In a corner. This the place to occasionally vent. I don't think that's abuse. I've posted hundreds of threads here on a variety of topics. Now for the first time in HOF we have a thread I'll hide; the premise is incorrect, it's a hit and run post . And I'm sick of seeing it.

You can rec what you choose, of course.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
75. Just making use of the tools provided to us by DU3.
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 05:44 PM
Feb 2014

Shining the light as it were. Transparency and Doors.

PassingFair

(22,434 posts)
90. You're in agreement with people going into protected groups and posting lectures...
Thu Feb 20, 2014, 01:46 PM
Feb 2014

about how wrong they are?

LOL!

I think I'll go into the Interfaith Group and tell them that there's probably no god.

Then I'll take a swing through the Mental Health group and tell them that their problems are
"just in their head".

Perhaps a stroll over to the "Texas" Room where I will castigate every participant for
allowing Republicans to be in the majority.

The possibilities are endless!

BUTT OUT, OK, Nancy?

nomorenomore08

(13,324 posts)
81. Posting this to one of the most maligned groups on DU seems a bit ironic, frankly.
Thu Feb 20, 2014, 07:20 AM
Feb 2014

I have no personal issue with you, from most of your posts you seem like an alright guy, but focusing only on the occasional excesses of HoF members strikes me as myopic.

niyad

(112,947 posts)
87. PLEASE tell me that you simply forgot the sarcasm thingy, because you cannot
Thu Feb 20, 2014, 12:54 PM
Feb 2014

possibly be serious about what you posted. if you don't like what is happening in HoF, why are you even bothering to be in it? and, if you are serious, geez, thanks for the much-needed laughs. again, with the TONE, yes?

UtahLib

(3,179 posts)
89. bluebassman, I thought better of you
Thu Feb 20, 2014, 01:43 PM
Feb 2014

..and some, but not all, of the people who decided to rec this. I do hope you are expressing equal disappointment by chastising those supporting the especially dispicable OP by O&ITW currently in GD.

BainsBane

(53,010 posts)
96. Callouts against feminists are okay
Thu Feb 20, 2014, 03:07 PM
Feb 2014

and it seems against a number of other DUers, including those call out/witch hunt threads he himself joins in, but oblique references to DUers who the OP thinks matter more than the rest of are not okay. I'm still waiting for the list of DUers who actually matter compared to the rest of us, who the OP has no issue with seeing trashed or called out.

redqueen

(115,096 posts)
97. They're sure ok with two people who despite a demonstrated hostility toward certain feminist issues
Thu Feb 20, 2014, 03:09 PM
Feb 2014

had recently started participating in this group.

Interesting, isn't it?

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