Start calling out the term 'slut-shaming'
Misogyny is misogyny. Use the right words.
Calling it 'slut-shaming' is labeling girls and women you don’t even know as 'sluts' - without their consent (for those who insist they are reclaiming the slur, you do that for yourself, not for others). It reinforces the idea that there is such a thing as a 'slut', defining girls and women who enjoy sex as something negative, and that is unacceptable. In-group, non-pejorative use is one thing -- use it about yourself if you want, use it with your friends if you want, that's entirely up to the women involved... but start calling out this habit of labeling other girls and women as if it's helpful, because it's not.
Call it out in every context. The term only reinforces the idea that calling girls and women 'sluts' is a perfectly acceptable thing to do. I'm sure most who use it mean well and because they do they should be clued in that it's not helpful.
We don’t call anything else '(insert oppressive slur here)-shaming', so just stop. Stop normalizing anti-female slurs.
Stop using slurs to describe women and calling it activist language.
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I cringe whenever I hear it come out of a woman's mouth. Most times, they are bound up in that subculture... they don't even know a different world exists, where women are treated with respect, instead of being belittled and used. They think "this is just the way it is," i.e. life. 
The responses to this OP are making my radical feminist heart very happy
I'm so happy that I've helped identify the source of the discomfort, and so not surprised you were uncomfortable with it.
including controversial minefield topics. And I still wonder how online conversation can even be "derailed". The same goes with "stifled".
I think its possible to have an intelligent discussion even with the insertion of rampant disagreement and false information from detractors. That's the internet. I disagree with lots of folks on lots of issues. I can still pick out useful information from the sea of fluff. We all choose what and who we respond to. I'm conspicuously absent from certain discussions. Whichever dog we feed is the one who comes back for more. Each of us is in control of our own experience here.
Sorry if that's a bit off topic. Didn't mean to mansplain! 
no matter who comes into it or what they say. One can selectively respond or not.
An example of something that I may have been involved in:
HoF has a thread about domestic sexual violence (men abusing women). I see it on the greatest page and join in and share my story. I think of it as joining a discussion about domestic sexual violence, and adding to the conversation. Certainly not trying to "derail", "stifle", or "silence" or anything against the other people in the thread sharing their stories or the OP which was probably a news article or blog post about the topic.
However, some may see that as derailing and throw me out and feel angry at me. Others may say "Sorry that happened to you, here's a " and continue on with the discussion. Others may even ignore my post completely and continue on with the discussion. There's nothing wrong with that. That's just how it is. I wouldn't post such a thing in GD, HoF seemed more appropriate. And our own experiences and perspectives guide our opinions and feelings on most everything.
There's no need to respond to every post. If something appears to be derailing or stifling, its OK to not respond to it.
Another example that I can see will happen:
OP here posted a thread about stop using an offensive term. That's fine and it has been an educational experience for many who may not have realized it would be offensive. But you know that in other discussions about the activity in question, someone will use the term and someone else will call it out. Well now the posters in that discussion may be drawn into a discussion about whether its ok to use the term, while others will still continue to discuss the activity in question. It's an individual choice. If enough individuals stick with the original topic of discussion, it has not been derailed.
Back to the original topic, I've used the term before with good intentions but I will stop now that I see it is offensive.
You again 
So original.
Bonus points for banging the civil rights drum and even namedropping Rosa Parks for effect.
Your dedication to feminist causes is something else.
Dirty socks indeed.
I will try to be careful.
however, it is rather easy to make the assumption that when a feminist man disagrees with a feminist woman that he is speaking from a sense of privilege. But then I recall that the point of feminism is a belief that gender cannot determine who has the better opinion, and therefore the fact that I am a male should in no way be the reason for dismissing my opinion, any more than I should dismiss someone else's opinion because she is a woman.
If there is merit, then let's discuss it without the poor argument that I am in error, because I have a chromosome of difference with the person with whom I disagree.
As I have learned to practice feminism in my own life, it is obvious that hypocrisy is a poor tactic for either gender.
In this case, my disagreement originates from a sense that this particular issue (using the term "slut shaming"
is a misguided strategy, at this time, in promoting equality between the genders.
I suggest you read and learn from Bain's excellent explanation above about minimizing and derailing.
Appreciate your open mindedness, tho!
Say it sister. 
Only the same people who said we didn't care about important things also told us the SCOTUS Hobby Lobby decision wasn't important. Or they couldn't be bother to mention the decision at all. That make clear to me that those people--some of whom are women themselves--don't believe women's rights matter at all. We aren't important. So don't try that bullshit line about what's really important. The reaction to the Hobby Lobby decision proved that to be nothing but an effort to silence women and prop up power and privilege.
If you think you're Rosa Parks for telling Redqueen to keep her mouth shut about stuff you don't approve of, you have no fucking idea what injustice, civil rights, or activism is. Take it somewhere where they buy your game. This is a feminist forum on a liberal site. Whatever you may think about this group, we are not stupid. Those tired clichés don't cut it.
If you're going to try to play this room, at least put some effort into it. You ought to at least check GD to make sure there isn't a thread using the very term you insist only redqueen mentions, thus proving you argument completely without merit. WE eat professional trolls for breakfast, and you you trifle us with that amateur act? 
We're not buying what you're peddling.
that is a very kind post