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eridani

(51,907 posts)
Thu Dec 31, 2015, 03:53 AM Dec 2015

What It Would Look Like If Men Were Insulted Like Women



http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/if-men-were-insulted-like-women_568296a7e4b06fa688811797

When men are treated like women, it's easy to see the subtle sexism women face every day.

BuzzFeed reveals this everyday sexism in a new video called "If Men Got Insulted Like Women." The video flips insults that are often aimed at women, on men.

Instead of a man telling a woman"Go make me a sandwich," we watch a woman tell a man to "Go grill me a burger." “No one takes the hot girl at work seriously," becomes “No one takes the hot guy at work seriously." And, “You would actually be pretty if you just put in some effort" turns into “You would actually be handsome if you just put in some effort.”

The results reveal just how subtle and pervasive sexism can be -- and how terrible these sorts of comments are for everyone.

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What It Would Look Like If Men Were Insulted Like Women (Original Post) eridani Dec 2015 OP
Men, don't work late. Don't wear dress shoes. Don't drink too much... Phentex Dec 2015 #1
actually the treatment of women can't be 'flipped' onto men MsJaneFuzzyWuzzy Jan 2016 #2

Phentex

(16,330 posts)
1. Men, don't work late. Don't wear dress shoes. Don't drink too much...
Thu Dec 31, 2015, 12:33 PM
Dec 2015

Don't drive fancy cars because someone could steal it. Drive a clunker to make your car less appealing.

Men, don't go to the bathroom alone.

Smile.

 

MsJaneFuzzyWuzzy

(58 posts)
2. actually the treatment of women can't be 'flipped' onto men
Wed Jan 6, 2016, 01:58 PM
Jan 2016

Because the origin of the treatment is the inferior status of women, and the effects of it depend on that status.

A man is not threatened by something that threatens a woman. And a man would be amused by something that demeans a woman.

"Go grill me a burger" doesn't carry with it the implied "you are my inferior and your needs and wishes are subordinate to mine, and I am entitled to tell you what to do, and I am even entitled and willing and able to enforce the behaviour I demand of you if I choose."

The only way a man might begin to grasp what women face every day is to consider some aspect of his life in which his status is inferior and how he feels, or would feel, if someone who has status higher than him exploited it to control or insult or hurt him.

A man who belongs to a racial or ethnic or religious minority might be able to get the idea. A working-class man with low social status might, too.

But a man whose every characteristic gives him privileged status really isn't going to feel powerless or insulted if a woman says "go grill me a burger". He might be annoyed at the nerve, but that's about all. And he'd probably be flattered if he were referred to as "the hot guy at work". And he probably does think he should be in the garage. Why would he want the lower status of a kitchen worker??

The video maybe shows how ridiculous some of the things women experience are, but I don't think it does much to generate empathy.

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