Welcome to DU! The truly grassroots left-of-center political community where regular people, not algorithms, drive the discussions and set the standards. Join the community: Create a free account Support DU (and get rid of ads!): Become a Star Member Latest Breaking News Editorials & Other Articles General Discussion The DU Lounge All Forums Issue Forums Culture Forums Alliance Forums Region Forums Support Forums Help & Search

debm55

(38,092 posts)
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 08:45 PM 16 hrs ago

A question to ask. How can you tell if a poster is posting in honestly or in jest about you? I am naive and take people

at their word. Do I just dismiss it? And forget about. But it hurt to have people laughing at me in a different forum. Thank you.

10 replies = new reply since forum marked as read
Highlight: NoneDon't highlight anything 5 newestHighlight 5 most recent replies

debm55

(38,092 posts)
4. My name was used and it was posted in GD. I started the OP about when and how Children learn that Santa does not exist
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 08:55 PM
16 hrs ago

in the physical but in the spiritual. Poster in question took it a different forum. I posted it Lounge and made comments and had three other posters agree, I apologized and said I would take it down.OP said it was a joke. Jokes can hurt too.

onecaliberal

(36,264 posts)
5. I'm so sorry people are completely unaware of themselves.
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 09:01 PM
16 hrs ago

You are a wonderful human. I always look for your posts. Your feelings are valid.

debm55

(38,092 posts)
6. I don't want to get anyone in trouble, I posted in the Lounge. But a new response post appeared in the GD theard. page 2
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 09:05 PM
15 hrs ago

now. It wasn;t bullying per say. just making fun of my belief that Santa is spiritual for love, kindness and Being helpful. It started as a thread to ask when loungers stopped believing in Santa. I did put an edit on my OP stating that if anyone has a problem to add to the discussion or to email me. I thought it was wrong to use my name, Which is my real name/birth year and run to the GD to post it.

murielm99

(31,498 posts)
9. There is nothing wrong with your belief.
Sat Dec 21, 2024, 04:16 AM
8 hrs ago

When I was younger, I had a friend who "chose" to believe in Santa. She and her parents had received help from a Secret Santa at a time when things were so tough for them that they would otherwise not have had a Christmas. Her parents divorced soon after, at a time when divorce was uncommon.

All of their lives improved. She moved away, but I think of her often at this time of year. She is part of my Christmas story.

If Santa is real for you, that is good. I hope he is still real for my friend Teddy, wherever she is. In her own way, she made him real for me.

LuckyCharms

(19,113 posts)
3. If it is unclear, come out and ask them if they are serious or not.
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 08:52 PM
16 hrs ago

See what kind of response you get.

Ask for clarification on their comment.

If they were indeed being cruel, they will probably be embarrassed to answer such a question, and they won't respond to you.

If they were indeed trying to be kind, they will tell you that.

debm55

(38,092 posts)
7. After I offered to take mine down, the OP typed 3 dots which I chicked and said it was a joke. I have 20 points taken
Fri Dec 20, 2024, 09:14 PM
15 hrs ago

since October 20 for posting about a poster who I blocked yesterday for mailing me and calling me a depressed, elderly women sitting at my computer all day and giving me his phone number. This is getting a little strange. If you look at the Lounge posting today I have a debm55 appreciation thread,

NNadir

(34,812 posts)
10. The wonderful "ignore" tool at DU is your friend. You can block everything, including PMs for anyone you wish.
Sat Dec 21, 2024, 09:50 AM
3 hrs ago

I use it frequently, but curate it very occasionally, every few years, to see if blocked posters have gone away, as some of them have, particularly to remove them from blocked jury members.

You're a wonderful person who almost everyone here enjoys, and as for the dissidents on this impression, don't let them get you down. Just ignore them. We do have cranks - and I'm sure there are people who include me as a crank - but I wouldn't worry about it.

Latest Discussions»Help & Search»DU Community Help»A question to ask. How ca...