Democratic Primaries
Related: About this forumWoman shouts 'you can hug and kiss me any time' to Joe Biden at presidential campaign rally
Tweet from the UK paper The Independent, minutes ago, with video.
You have to see Biden's reaction...
Link to tweet
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Siwsan
(26,259 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
still_one
(92,122 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
samnsara
(17,615 posts)...a hell of a lot better than the Deplorables shirts said trump can grab their p***y...
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)It brings to mind the tacky and classless "you can grab my pussy" t-shirts and signs.
What good purpose does it serve for her to have said that?
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
LongtimeAZDem
(4,494 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
hlthe2b
(102,217 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
uawchild
(2,208 posts)Could that woman have been a republican plant trying to keep this meme alive?
primary today, I would vote for: Undecided
highplainsdem
(48,966 posts)other info on her.
Link to tweet
https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/2020-election/woman-tells-biden-rally-you-can-hug-kiss-me-anytime-n1002986
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
woodsprite
(11,910 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
LibFarmer
(772 posts)One doesn't have to go looking for a dark cloud every time one sees a silver lining.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
highplainsdem
(48,966 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
DownriverDem
(6,228 posts)Some folks are just trying too hard to attack Joe. I would love to see a Biden/Harris ticket.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)And, what I actually said was: that not helpful, and that I thought it was tacky and classless. I also asked what good purpose it served. How is it helpful to pick at the scab and proclaim a great big "fuck-you" to reasonable people who did (and still do) find his overly affectionate (albeit "harmless'') behavior to be cringeworthy.
It brings to mind the tacky and classless "you can grab my pussy" t-shirts and signs.
What good purpose does it serve for her to have said that?
Look, I'm with you on the fact that it's been overplayed and that he meant no harm... it's just a loving and affectionate guy. Sure. We're on the same page. But not everyone feels that way, and those who don't have legitimate concerns and shouldn't be dismissed. And then there are those who don't care one way or the other, who haven't been paying attention... who'd likely forget the whole thing (or allow it to go unnoticed entirely) EXCEPT FOR PEOPLE LIKE THIS WOMAN who insist on "making it a thing".
So, what good purpose does it serve?
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
highplainsdem
(48,966 posts)sniping at him over this. When I search for the name Biden alone or with various keywords, I keep seeing the same discredited charges, the same misinterpreted or even photohopped images, popping up.
So I don't think it hurts that Libby Peterson made her own feelings about this clear.
And I think Biden's reaction was funny and perfect, and that will help.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)Sadly, in the process of making "her own feelings clear" in such a public way, there are probably countless people who have now been introduced to the "controversy" for the first time... who are asking "what's THAT about?" And who'll get someone's version of what it was about... and who may have their opinions of Biden tainted as a result.
All I can tell you is that Ms. Peterson isn't helping anything.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
LibFarmer
(772 posts)His hugging and kissing has been in the public eye for a long time and Lucy Flores did make headlines and lead stories for several days so it is baked in.
This gesture serves to pooh pooh all that brouhaha and showcases how harmless Joe Biden is.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)Why not just let it die? These types of constant reminders only serve to keep it alive. I think it would just fade away otherwise. This woman isn't helping anything.
I had to chuckle to myself when I recently read someone suggest that we should "move on" by defending and encouraging behavior like this which is clearly the furthest thing from "moving on" that there could be.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
LibFarmer
(772 posts)or anyone else's hands.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)You know perfectly well that's not what I'm talking about. What IS in our hands is the acceptance and encouragement and validation of those who insist on continually bringing up this kind of shit.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
LibFarmer
(772 posts)I agree with you actually now that I got it.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Drunken Irishman
(34,857 posts)Not hold rallies? Admonish the woman in front of the world about how trivial she's being? It's not like Joe got up there and made a joke like a few weeks ago.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)Defending and encouraging this type of tacky behavior (as is now being done) is of no help and it serves no good purpose.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Drunken Irishman
(34,857 posts)That'll go over well. Embarrassing a woman who likely was just trying to be cute, in front of a large crowd, and to what would likely turn out to be a television audience, is about the dumbest response he could have done. It wouldn't change anything. It'd just make him look like a dick.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)It's HERE (and other internet venues, platforms) that she's being cheered-on and encouraged and validated. She doesn't deserve "high-fives" and "atta-girls".
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Drunken Irishman
(34,857 posts)Admonish the woman in front of the world about how trivial she's being?
That's an excellent start.
How does one do that without putting her on blast?
It's HERE (and other internet venues, platforms) that she's being cheered-on and encouraged and validated. She doesn't deserve "high-fives" and "atta-girls".
You're confused. Or you're replying to the wrong thread. My question was how HE (Biden) could let it die. Your response is the context of that comment, so, don't roll your eyes at me for pointing out the silliness of your argument. we weren't talking about internet venues or DU - I was specifically talking about how BIDEN can let it die.
You can re-read my post here since you're confused:
https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1287&pid=111235
But if you don't want to click it, I'll post it:
32. So, how can he let it die?
Not hold rallies? Admonish the woman in front of the world about how trivial she's being? It's not like Joe got up there and made a joke like a few weeks ago.
Your response to the part in bold:
That's an excellent start.
So, yeah, you did say that. Unless you feel he could admonish her IN FRONT OF THE WORLD without utterly humiliating her by putting her on blast.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)I think it's astounding that anyone could suggest that we "move on" yet in the same post, ALSO defend this crap and encourage more of the same? How exactly does that allow people, Biden, and the party to "move on"??? (It doesn't.)
Her "cuteness" was unnecessary and harmful... and our response to it only AMPLIFIES the harm.
"Putting her on blast" makes no sense to me. I don't know what this means, so I can't respond... but whatever it is, I'm sure it has nothing to do with what I actually said.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Drunken Irishman
(34,857 posts)That's just sad. We're not talking about DU. I specifically told you this was about Biden and what he could do. Calling her out would have made it a much bigger issue and made him look like a dick.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)Put it to bed and quit taunting and ridiculing the people that his odd behavior was a trigger for. It's now national news: The Independent, twitter, CBS. The whole thing starts all over again because of one loudmouth who's trying to be "cute". It serves no good purpose to encourage that type of behavior.
Cut it out.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Response to NurseJackie (Reply #68)
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NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)I stand by my words. Her outburst was classless and a lapse of good judgement. It should be rejected, not encouraged.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Drunken Irishman
(34,857 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
InAbLuEsTaTe
(24,122 posts)Bernie & Elizabeth 2020!!!
Welcome to the revolution!!!
primary today, I would vote for: Undecided
highplainsdem
(48,966 posts)Wow. That would have made him look like a pompous ass.
Have you EVER seen ANYONE on a stage respond to anyone in the audience shouting something like that with a sanctimonious lecture?
Do you think that would somehow have helped Biden?
Btw, what should he have followed the scolding with, since you thought that was just a start? Should he have asked her to take classes in Faux Outrage 101 taught by Lucy Flores? Or maybe asked her to wear a black armband for at least a year to show solidarity with the women who came forward with those ridiculous and apparently politically motivated complaints about him?
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)The rest of your post applies to nothing.
If given a chance, this shit would die on its own. Why continue to feed it? Why encourage this type of classless and tacky behavior. It's not "cute". It just keeps it in the headlines.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
highplainsdem
(48,966 posts)You were responding to his reply 32:
Not hold rallies? Admonish the woman in front of the world about how trivial she's being? It's not like Joe got up there and made a joke like a few weeks ago.
Your response, the one I was responding to in my message above, was reply 33:
That's an excellent start.
The time for "jokes" is over. It's passed. Let it fucking die!
Defending and encouraging this type of tacky behavior (as is now being done) is of no help and it serves no good purpose.
Drunken Irishman was clearly asking what Joe Biden should do, and you said that admonishing the woman in front of the world would be an excellent start.
Then, when he responded to that, you denied you'd said it. As you're doing now, after I responded to what you said.
Sigh.
Btw, I don't see anyone here encouraging this behavior.
And if you think a DU discussion keeps something in the headlines...
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)This is absurd. I can't be any clearer than I've already been. You're on your own from here on out.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Demsrule86
(68,543 posts)candidates...so I think humor helps.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)Humor is dismissive to those who want to be heard. I think they can be heard without "selling out" Biden. It's not just "those on the right" ... there are Biden supporters who found his overly-affectionate nuzzling and sniffing and caressing to be entirely inappropriate and cringe-inducing. Now I'll say that his behavior didn't bother ME the same way it bothers others, but at the same time, I'm not going to be dismissive or ridicule their feelings with humor. Many of those same individuals are very pleased that Biden has taken it as a teaching moment, a learning moment, and that he'll endeavor to be a better man and human being. I just find it astonishing that among his supporters are a handful who refuse to accept that as being a positive thing, and who apparently aren't satisfied with allowing people to find personal satisfaction and comfort in knowing that they were heard... and that their voices made a difference. Instead it's just the opposite. The ones who were content in being heard are now being ridiculed and mocked. How exactly does that help anything? They were ready to move on... but aren't being allowed to. What purpose does that serve?
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Glimmer of Hope
(5,823 posts)Geez...
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
bullwinkle428
(20,629 posts)I'm not blaming Joe for it at all; I just can't think it's all that helpful.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
DownriverDem
(6,228 posts)I find it funny. He's a great guy.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
DownriverDem
(6,228 posts)She meant it. Those of us who have followed Joe for years know he never meant any harm. It's others pushing their views of him that are so wrong.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
loyalsister
(13,390 posts)It also ridicules women who would dare suggest a well liked man made her feel uncomfortable when it did not involve violent rape.
primary today, I would vote for: Undecided
hlthe2b
(102,217 posts)have all felt angry that true sexual misbehavior had been conflated with a mere innocent touch. I have pointed out that sensitivity to touch and approach was likely more common now, given the number of autistic spectrum people among us and those who have experienced sexual assault... While that did get some nods of understanding, the majority had issues with women willingly approaching the VP, yet being uncomfortable expressing a simple request not to hug or touch. Maybe I understand the latter a bit more, having worked with victims of violence in prior times of my life, but there is certainly some backlash to what has happened, at least in my limited circles.
BTW, I'm not saying this is limited to those in their 30s, 40s, 50s--just that I haven't had any opportunity to discuss it with those in their 20s (or younger).
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
DownriverDem
(6,228 posts)and has gotten the message. Let's all move on now, okay?
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
hlthe2b
(102,217 posts)I think it is also a lesson for the media. Women are not all thinking in "lockstep" and should not be treated as a monolith.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)Why defend or encourage things like this? It only keeps it at the forefront... it only serves as a reminder of what was said before... and for those who happened to be completely unaware the first time around, it just MAKES them aware.
How is this a good thing?
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Polly Hennessey
(6,793 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
JI7
(89,246 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Undecided
Beatleman
(29 posts)would welcome a hug or kiss from Him,,,Anytime
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
WeekiWater
(3,259 posts)It's just not cool. I get that a lot of people are upset about how Biden was attacked and the mockery many of those attacks made of the metoo movement but this isn't the most helpful thing. It's become a positive for Biden but it's not helpful to society as a whole.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Demsrule86
(68,543 posts)this and using it for political advantage or whatever. It should be for those women who have suffered sexual assault (me) and/ or sexual harassment. Such despicable women like Flores and the others have an agenda, and they hurt the real victims. They should be ashamed as this sort of thing will destroy Me TOO.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
WeekiWater
(3,259 posts)Its borderline insignificant. Let Biden have the stage.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Demsrule86
(68,543 posts)hurt a decent man like Joe...it ruined Al Franken. And I am sick of it.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
ucrdem
(15,512 posts)because it never lived naturally. It was a hit job, and the RW noise machine is going to beat that dead mule 24/7 once the race is on.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
WeekiWater
(3,259 posts)From the beginning I have said that Biden is one of the best men you will find. He has some patriarchal tendencies but his closeness and compassion knows no gender. From early on I said the attacks would help him. People hat seeing a very good person attacked. Add the appearance of the attacks being coordinated and how they became more and more overblown it was guaranteed to help him. Pissed me off. I was not in his corner before the attacks.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Demsrule86
(68,543 posts)He is a good man and a great campaigner. I worked both. the 2008 and 2012 elections. Biden helped a great deal with Ohio and the rustbelt.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
ecstatic
(32,681 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
MineralMan
(146,286 posts)That's just my opinion, of course.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
highplainsdem
(48,966 posts)laughter that people there weren't upset about it, and they loved his response.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)Why give anyone any reason to be unenthusiastic about our party's nominee (if he ends up being the nominee)?
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Blue Owl
(50,347 posts)But these days there could easily be a Jacob Wohl-level operative looking for Diamond Joe to make a little error they could inflate into a giant smear campaign...
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
ucrdem
(15,512 posts)Very good point.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
ucrdem
(15,512 posts)The issue is already out there so I don't see the harm. And Joe had the perfect response.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
highplainsdem
(48,966 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)She was already "showing support" by attending. If she had to say anything, she should have done it privately. Aside from that she's just an attention-seeking heckler.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
ucrdem
(15,512 posts)and we never bought that bill of goods. It might have sounded at first like a heckle, but I don't think it was. And Joe gave about the best possible response.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)This is a story that's ready to die on its own. Except for the fact that some people refuse to let it die... instead they'd rather pour salt in the wounds of people who ARE still upset about Biden's behavior. You can include me among those who argue "it was harmless" and "he didn't know better (but now he does)" ... but I think it's exceedingly important to stop being so dismissive of those who continue to believe otherwise... those who deeply and sincerely find it to be offensive and invasive.
It's been my observations that most of those individuals have been willing to "let it go" and hope that the wounds heal... or to simply remain silent and take-one-for-the-team. If ONLY we didn't have offensive and tacky and classless hecklers like that trying to remind us if it... and if only we didn't have folks (here and elsewhere on the internet) cheering her on and validating it.
That kind of behavior isn't helping. It only serves to create resentment and distrust among many who have strong feelings about this subject.
Just let it die. You can't "move on" if people keep talking about it and if people keep encouraging others to talk about it in ways that only offend those who believe their message and concerns were heard, and who are trying to move on. But it's kinda hard for them to do that when they get constant reminders like this that they don't matter.
I can't make it any clearer than that. Either one gets it, or not. And if it still doesn't make sense, that's a shame, because I'm done explaining it. Done.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
ucrdem
(15,512 posts)Kissing and hugging in public are part of our political discourse and have been for a long time. So the oppo guys don't get to rewrite the rules whenever it suits their guy. That's the message I think she's trying to send, and I think she succeeded.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)Why would anyone feel that it's necessary to intentionally do or say things to aggravate something that's on the cusp of dying a natural death and just fading away? Why the big "fuck you" to those who were sincerely and genuinely disturbed at watching his inappropriately affectionate behavior?
That's the only message she 'succeeded' in sending. The reactions to it just poured salt in the still tender and still healing wounds.
What good purpose does that serve?
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
ucrdem
(15,512 posts)So in that sense, it's good.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)The only "compilation" I've observed comes from my own memory over the course of a dozen years that he's been on my radar. What I saw was not personally horrifying or disturbing to me, I simply saw it as odd. But I can see and understand how the sniffing and nuzzling and caressing and rubbing would be a trigger for many.
If Biden can show growth and understanding and acknowledge those who have expressed their feelings, if he can show respect by pledging to be more thoughtful and aware... why then is is so hard for his most ardent supporters to do the same? Why give high-fives and back-slaps and atta-girls when a boisterous supporter shows a lack of good judgement by blurting out something like that?
And I'll even concede that in the excitement and emotive moment (not having time for reflective consideration) it seems only natural that others would join in and cheer on that type of crass and classless outburst. But now we're no longer "in the moment" and we've had time to reflect and consider. But sadly, even in the intervening hours, and even after hearing from the voices of those who were most deeply affected by such things... there's still a defiant and harmful "fuck-you/grow-up" and "in-your-face-crybabies" attitude that I don't fully understand the motivation for.
You and I are now going in circles too. We'll probably NEVER agree, but I think we understand each other's positions. If there's something that you genuinely don't understand, let me know and I'll give it another shot. Aside from that, I think we're done and have take this about as far as we can.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Politicub
(12,165 posts)He is serious when he needs to be, and makes people laugh, too. Humor is an important rhetorical skill. A lot of our candidates come across as very serious, which appeals to me as someone who is wonky, but makes my husband want to change the channel.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
WhiskeyGrinder
(22,323 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Undecided
InAbLuEsTaTe
(24,122 posts)But, hey, that's progress!!
Bernie & Elizabeth 2020!!!
Welcome to the revolution!!!
primary today, I would vote for: Undecided
Gothmog
(145,109 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
JI7
(89,246 posts)like if he was shaking hands and he was going to shake her hand, just ask for a hug then.
while I think Flores and since others were full of shit based in evidence I don't doubt some others could have been uncomfortable without thinking there was any bad intent to it
it's not the fact that she wants to hug him that is the problem but more that it comes off as a rebuke to those who actually could be uncountable.
primary today, I would vote for: Undecided
Ferrets are Cool
(21,105 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
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Iggo
(47,548 posts)This is not a good look.
primary today, I would vote for: Undecided
ecstatic
(32,681 posts)And yes, the grab my pussy trumper is the first thing I thought of. Still, apples and oranges.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Iggo
(47,548 posts)But it's apples and apples, straight up.
primary today, I would vote for: Undecided
BannonsLiver
(16,366 posts)Bonkers.
primary today, I would vote for: Undecided