feminism 101- recommend a book or movie

so, i have a friend who is 40, educated, but says she's read zero feminist theory.
maybe she and i dont have the same idea of that word, but...
she's someone who is a mess because of a macho, toxic family. she should just tell them to go fuck themselves, but she really wants to try to articulate what the fucking problem is.

so, she wants recommendations.
i'm gonna look through my library and see what i have. but it seems like forever ago that reading led me to thinking and being someone who is whole, and makes no apologies for it. (or so i tell myself.)
i dont remember where my path started beyond ms magazine and 'fat is a feminist issue'.

what books or movies opened your eyes?

well, i'm enjoying lucifer.

about 5 episodes in, binged the last 2 days.
as a recovered catholic, the premise is fun. the eye candy is great.
and it's just a lot of silly fun.

but can they keep this up? there's 5 seasons. will i get tired of it?

found an old pbs fave on amazon- lovejoy.

hubs and i loved that show, and it was shut up kids, our show is on teevee.
bumped into it on prime, just watched the 1st episode, and who is the very attractive supportive character, lady jane?
phyllis logan, aka mrs hughes.
she is so damn cute here. eccentric rich lady designer and antiques buff to ian mcshane's shady genius.

this will be fun.

nine black baseball players who shape mlb

now, i am not a big sports fan, in general, but i have spent many happy hours watching baseball.
raised a cubs fan, many happy afternoons in the friendly confines, and watching wgn.
just didnt have the bandwidth when my kids were small, but their dad was a sox fan. likewise enjoyed many hours and beers at the cell.
but i never took it heart attack serious.
and i consider total ignorance of sports news to be a perk of my divorce.

all that said, i thoroughly enjoyed this wapo article on black baseball players.
i was not aware that the percentages were changing, tho i do know that there is more overt racism from the knuckle draggers these days than i ever saw at the park.

great bios of 9 players, old and young, and a critical look at what it is to be a black player even now.

fascinating despite being infuriating.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/sports/interactive/2021/black-baseball-players-legacy-history/?itid=pr_hybrid_experimentrandom_with_top_mostshared_2_na-ans_2

ok, finally watched '12 strong'. i cannot tell you how strange it was to watch a movie

about someone you know. someone whose diapers you changed.
the main character is a composite of my nephew, and another guy in his team.
my nephew-https://democraticunderground.com/100214554773

i read the book it was based on back when it came out- 'horse soldies' by doug stanton.
the driiiiiest book i ever read.

anyway. so part of the experience was sorting out what was mark. the merge was for the movie, not in the book.
since he had a fatwa on his head from obl, he wouldnt let them use his real name, or details in the book to begin with.
the bio was mostly the other guy. except for the family. that was his wife, his little girl, his town. they actors looked like them.
but that guy had never held a command before, and that was NOT mark.

the relationship w dostom, the warlord, was def mark. he talked about him at the time.
they left out what kind of man he is. brutal. just brutal. but mark came to respect him, and at the end it says they are friends to this day. i believe this to be true.

in light of the publication of 'the afghanistan papers' i think my original opinion of the book proves true- it was a hagiography published at a time when support for the war was waning.
iirc in the book at least they make mention of the money that changed hands, left out of the movie. at any rate, it's a fact i know that is not mentioned. but i thought it reeked of puffery. down to the sub-title which is some nonsense about riding to victory in afghanistan.

will also point out that mark did not go home.
he stayed at mazari sharif, and was responsible for putting down the prison uprising there, which earned him a congressional medal.

it's been hard all along to see someone so good spend his life is such a dubious pursuit. so smart, so driven, so brave, and for what? back when i made buttons, i made one that said- love the soldier. hate the war. but it was damn hard.
i asked him the other day if he was sorry he retired. he said- you know that saying 'familiarity breeds contempt'? yeah, that's true. i'm glad to be out of all that.

he's on to another life. he's talking about a book, but, sadly, is unlikely to spill any tea.
he's a master at that. it will likely be about foreign policy.

all in all, tho, so completely strange.

we've seen this movie before. it's teaparty 2.0.

at least some of these mouth beathers showing up at public meetings are paid actors.
yeah, i know, the ct nuts talk about that shit all the time. projection. they do it, they assume we do.

there was a twitter thread posted a while back w pics of some of these nuts.
some do it every day, have no visible means of support, AND had imbd profiles.

we didnt know what hit us then, but there's no excuse now.
make these fuckers show their id's when they go to any kind of meeting, and feel free to block their asses if they arent affected by the decisions.
willing to bet those a lot of those cretins at the tenn school board meeting did.not.have.kids.in.those.schools.

sure, there are fellow travelers to be found, but they arent leaders and they arent organizers and they ARENT THE MONEY.
follow the money.

today is my birthday.

how are baseball cards doing these days?

i ended up w several thousand 60's-90's good cards in my divorce.
i was in a charity thrift store that had the stock of a card shop donated. i knew the hubs would dig it, so i called him and asked how many boxes.
i think i dragged home a dozen, then he went back and picked through.
we ended up w about 25 cases, like the cig carton size box x 4. no idea how many cards that is.

hubs went through them all, and sorted out the good ones. 6-7 cases.

i'd like to get them out of my way. i have asked a few people in the last couple years, but they say the market is shit. is it worse now?
what would you do w them?

a humble proposal-

lawrence o'donnell shares family history w boston mayoral candidate.

what a story!