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21. My story is completely different

Thu Feb 8, 2018, 01:12 PM

Feb 2018

Soon after my ex-husband and I divorced he was up for a job that required top-secret clearance. I got the interview and got the same kinds of questions that you describe. I basically lied and said he never abused me or our child. I said he never did anything bad to me, that it was just one of those things that we fell apart. The truth is that I was terrified of my ex. I lived in fear day and night that he was going to break in and attack me and kill me. He had threatened it. So - him having a job clear across the country was the best thing that could have ever happened for me and my (our) child. My replies were all about getting him the job. You may judge me, but he was a major physical threat to me and my child.

So - maybe one shouldn't always trust an ex-wife's words.

Just sayin'

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My FBI/Ex-wife story [View all] Raven Feb 2018 OP

yes... they do have to be honest and any FBI agent who can't tell "truth" versus vendetta hlthe2b Feb 2018 #1

"Ex spouses lie" is code for "Don't believe women" flibbitygiblets Feb 2018 #8

An ex-husband could lie just as easily IronLionZion Feb 2018 #15

Yes, but we don't have any men in this admin flibbitygiblets Feb 2018 #32

Doesn't get around the underlying issue that exes rarely are objective mythology Feb 2018 #41

All good agencies do that type of background. Corgigal Feb 2018 #2

Semper Paratus! IronLionZion Feb 2018 #12

Great story. MontanaMama Feb 2018 #3

Years ago, my brother was up for a job in the DOD SCantiGOP Feb 2018 #19

Bottom line: Trump regime doesn't trust women & FBI & Intell & journalists & colored people & ... nt Bernardo de La Paz Feb 2018 #4

Trump regime hates truth. nt SunSeeker Feb 2018 #14

"Colored People"? Come on, we're not in the 1950s anymore. Try "people of color". brush Feb 2018 #16

Sorry, I was writing that as Trump and his supremacists would see it. You are correct. Bernardo de La Paz Feb 2018 #17

Does that make me SCantiGOP Feb 2018 #20

:) Bernardo de La Paz Feb 2018 #25

I think it's proper to use the words Trump himself uses...and he has NEVER SAID "people of color"! BamaRefugee Feb 2018 #27

NAACP is a very historic 1909 very active organization. Nothing irrelevant about them or thier lunasun Feb 2018 #51

I referenced NAACP as a counter-example, sardonically. Of course they are relevant. Bernardo de La Paz Feb 2018 #52

I live in an area with a lot of federal workers. Raine1967 Feb 2018 #5

I have done quite a few FBI interviews... HipChick Feb 2018 #6

I too was interviewed for a background check on a friend. mountain grammy Feb 2018 #7

I used to conduct SSBI's and had to interview references, including exes NightWatcher Feb 2018 #9

So there's no way Kelly and others didn't know. Ligyron Feb 2018 #10

When I had my interview, Raven Feb 2018 #11

Really good point. MontanaMama Feb 2018 #22

Kushner still doesn't have a clearance marylandblue Feb 2018 #26

Checking backgrounds for clearance is the most time consuming part of FBI work grantcart Feb 2018 #13

A judge had issued a temporary protective order - that was huge verification. She would have signed Justice Feb 2018 #39

Before I could volunteer at my local hospital Mr.Bill Feb 2018 #18

I was a substitute teacher for one year... llmart Feb 2018 #36

My story is completely different electron_blue Feb 2018 #21

I don't judge you. MontanaMama Feb 2018 #23

He might have. electron_blue Feb 2018 #28

You didn't falsely say he abused you when he didn't - there is a difference IMO Justice Feb 2018 #40

Agreed. I had an apartment neighbor LisaM Feb 2018 #24

Not all US agencies use FBI to do their background checking.. HipChick Feb 2018 #29

This was quite a while ago, late 80s. LisaM Feb 2018 #30

I found out the hard way.. HipChick Feb 2018 #31

Thanks for your story....It's completely Upthevibe Feb 2018 #35

Do Russians visit them KT2000 Feb 2018 #33

Great story thanks for sharing. Dem_4_Life Feb 2018 #34

Thanks for sharing marlakay Feb 2018 #47

San Antonio is a great city! Dem_4_Life Feb 2018 #50

I got interviewed by FBI re:an employee who was leaving my company mainer Feb 2018 #37

I had to lose an employee HipChick Feb 2018 #42

Thank you for that. dchill Feb 2018 #38

I got interviewed by the FBI about my wife. kwassa Feb 2018 #43

Did Porter Lie to the FBI About His Abuse of His Former Spouses? If So, Isn't That a Crime? dlk Feb 2018 #44

INTERESTING ROB-ROX Feb 2018 #45

My interview was about a US Attorney position and it was Raven Feb 2018 #53

Well that's true. If you lie to an FBI agent, it is a federal crime. PatrickforO Feb 2018 #46

I doubt drumpf could pass a check if it weren't for the fact that he's potus Kali Feb 2018 #48

Thanks. There's an OP right now that wants an "innocent until proven guilty" pity party. ... Hekate Feb 2018 #49

Thanks for posting tazkcmo Feb 2018 #54