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scheming daemons

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25. Because that's how real life usually is!

Mon Jan 28, 2019, 05:41 PM

Jan 2019

When someone comes into your life, it is usually in a transactional manner. Especially when that someone is from a different culture than your own, otherwise you would have had very little opportunity to begin the relationship in the first place.

Over time... what began as transactional either

A) Stays that way
B) ends
C) grows into something genuine.

I'm not going to fault films for choosing "C" as an inspirational story telling device.

Every romantic comedy..... hell, every Hallmark TV movie.... is full of relationships that began as transactional and became something more.

The author of the NYT article is bitter about movies that make people hopeful.

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NYT: Why Do the Oscars Keep Falling for Racial Reconciliation Fantasies? [View all] WhiskeyGrinder Jan 2019 OP

Eh Loki Liesmith Jan 2019 #1

I don't know what to think about this controversy. madaboutharry Jan 2019 #2

The issue, as I see it, is that when movies like this get acclaim, it takes the issue of unpacking, WhiskeyGrinder Jan 2019 #5

I saw Green Book over the weekend. BannonsLiver Jan 2019 #3

me too scheming daemons Jan 2019 #4

Pretty sure no one said you are, and I'm sorry that's what you took from the article. WhiskeyGrinder Jan 2019 #6

The article is bashing these movies scheming daemons Jan 2019 #8

But those aren't relationships between equals who consider each other equals. WhiskeyGrinder Jan 2019 #10

Read the last paragraph of the excerpts in your OP scheming daemons Jan 2019 #12

I see a lot of snark directed at the movie. WhiskeyGrinder Jan 2019 #17

yes... condescendingly implying "if you liked this movie, we're going to show you why you're wrong" scheming daemons Jan 2019 #23

You're confusing imply and infer again. LanternWaste Jan 2019 #28

again? When did I do it before? scheming daemons Jan 2019 #29

In the movie The Green Book the white guy worked for the black guy DemocratSinceBirth Jan 2019 #13

Which doesn't take away the point that their relationship is transactional. WhiskeyGrinder Jan 2019 #18

It began that way. DemocratSinceBirth Jan 2019 #21

At the beginning, it is. At the end, it is genuine. scheming daemons Jan 2019 #24

Sometimes relationships are transactional... and sometimes those relationships grow scheming daemons Jan 2019 #14

Sure, it's just that the issue is that Hollywood loves to address race relations through these WhiskeyGrinder Jan 2019 #20

Because that's how real life usually is! scheming daemons Jan 2019 #25

Agreed oberliner Jan 2019 #31

I was about to say ... if movies about race are problematic , movies MaryMagdaline Jan 2019 #32

I think it's about expectations BannonsLiver Jan 2019 #26

I hope to be an asshole soon lame54 Jan 2019 #7

It's worth your time. My advice: form your own opinion BannonsLiver Jan 2019 #27

Have you seen The Wire or Treme? Do you think they do a better job of being more realistic? jalan48 Jan 2019 #9

no major awards for The Wire NewJeffCT Jan 2019 #11

The problem with The Wire is that's how people think of Baltimore Recursion Jan 2019 #19

I was thinking more along the lines of being a more realistic portrayal of the black community jalan48 Jan 2019 #34

Green Book was an absolute hot mess Recursion Jan 2019 #15

Me watching the trailer: WhiskeyGrinder Jan 2019 #22

Movies about white/black reconciliantion made to make whites feel better about themselves. harumph Jan 2019 #16

Can a person be friends with someone who works for them? oberliner Jan 2019 #30

depends on the kind of work, maybe Mr. Quackers Jan 2019 #33

It depends on how a person defines friendship. WhiskeyGrinder Jan 2019 #35

That is interesting oberliner Jan 2019 #36