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7. Sorry to hear this. Very complex...

I don't know if you ever had any good times w your dad.

My relationship got tricky after he got ill a second time, my early ?30's, recovered against n, then esp the third timeLoved him still, often didn't like him.
When I was quite young on occasion he got angry and yelled. He was under extra stresses, extra stress I had due my mom (his wife) getting unexpectedly very ill for a while (better over time!).

When I got into age 7-8 I was less prone to big upsets. He was usually sweeter, and fun loving.

I guess if there's anything positive that you remember maybe convey to him through whomever you think is best to do that for.

Just a thought.

Eventually my dad got ill in a different way through an accident, but he became usually very sweet. It was both tricky, but also way more loving again. So we parted on much better terms.

Good luck to you.