Her boyfriend killed her son but she went to jail

[Hestia]

6. What's really egregious about this is the Prosecuting Atty stating that she wasn't abused and

that she should have known better, as if he knows what it is like to be a low socio-economic single mother who's doing the best she can. She was very leery of him at first, even having her friends come on the first day and vet him.

It's the man-splainin' of what domestic abuse is and isn't and doesn't see anything wrong with the laws as written.

During trial, the prosecution argued that Hogue does not deserve the sympathy of abuse victims, like Ms Hall, who stay with their partner out of fear.

They objected to the defence calling an expert on domestic violence to the stand, and the judge agreed with the prosecution.

"I want to be one hundred percent clear. Rebecca Hogue is not a domestic violence victim of Christopher Trent, who killed that baby," District Attorney Greg Mashburn told local news station KFOR. "She was not scared of him. She was not worried about what he would do physically to her."

Mr Mashhburn's office declined to speak to the BBC for this story.

But Stacey Wright, an anti-domestic-violence advocate on the board of the Oklahoma Call for Reproductive Justice advocacy group, says Trent's repeated lies about Ryder's injuries was gaslighting, a form of psychological abuse.

"That's the thing about abuse, is it alters your ability to trust your gut, and your intuition," she says.

Looking back, Hogue wonders if he was "love bombing" her - a technique domestic-violence experts say abusers use in the beginning of a relationship to shower their victims with affection, building trust and dependence.

Ms Pezzell says physical violence isn't the only form of abuse, and that it's quite common for women who have left physically abusive relationships to become targets for coercive, psychological abuse by future partners.

"Victims are often assumed to choose their partners, but their partners very strategically choose the most vulnerable victims," she says.

And Okla women are dying via suicide/alcoholism - https://www.washingtonpost.com/sf/national/2016/04/08/we-dont-know-why-it-came-to-this/

https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/health/2018/11/16/alcohol-deaths-emergency-room-increase-middle-aged-women-addiction-opioids/1593347002/

One alarming statistic: Deaths among women rose 85 percent. Women once drank far less than men, and their more moderate drinking helped prevent heart disease, offsetting some of the harm.