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In reply to the discussion: The latent sexism of the male marriage proposal [View all]REP
(21,691 posts)58. We had gotten to a point in our lives where we both had enough assets to be worth protecting
A marriage license was cheaper than a lawyer drawing up all paperwork to cover what marriage confers (ps, equal marriage now pls) plus he just really wanted to get married. He gave me a gorgeous ring because he knows I like jewelry. He's not into jewelry but could not wait to wear his wedding band, so I gave him one of my plain gold rings to wear until the formal legal document signing.
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I proposed to my husband. Twelve years later, we finally got around to it.
Luminous Animal
Dec 2014
#14
After reading your thread, I have to agree! Thanks for the good wishes, my dear Boston Bean!
CaliforniaPeggy
Dec 2014
#24
I think the traditional proposals are more common with snooty upper class folks.
Ykcutnek
Dec 2014
#22
I think you are correct. Most people discuss these things prior to engagement.
boston bean
Dec 2014
#25
I've always thought the reason women dont do it is because they're afraid of the possible rejection
davidn3600
Dec 2014
#28
In all seriousness, I've had a few (mis)adventures myself, but my autobiography would be boring
nomorenomore08
Dec 2014
#55
We talked about it, but thought it would be kinda weird to have a woman make the proposal....
Liberal Veteran
Dec 2014
#33
I'm short on time, but the article seems to gloss over the fact that most women prefer it this way.
Threedifferentones
Dec 2014
#35
My proposal from my husband began with,"I was driving over here to break up with you..."
ScreamingMeemie
Dec 2014
#40
The down on th knee things seems to be a more recent re-introdlluction of some old custom
treestar
Dec 2014
#42
when I was 2O (22 yrs ago) this chump somehow convinced me to pay for my own ring
freeplessinseattle
Dec 2014
#49
I bet there are more proposals now while holding a pregnancy test instead of a ring.
rug
Dec 2014
#52