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Thank you for being a foster-parent, it will not easy - it will be hard - but you will get something in return you will never have gotten if you have not doing what you are doing... Many who end up being a foster parents is getting more than they believe was possible - even if it was so hard as human possible to give a child the possibility to grow up in a "normal" family and give the child the possibility of survive in the world, give children the right tool, when they grow up - to at least Be able to exist and live.. And in many cases, the bonds between foster parents and child will exist also after the age of 18 - It is sad to say - but I would say I have a closer friendship with my foster mother, than I had with my biological mother when she was alive... It was to many things that we was not able, or willing to talk about the past.. The few times we did it, she was just to hurt by it all... And I know she would have given everything in the world, to be able to go back, and do a better job if she had known.... The same with my father - who once stated that he regretted not being able to be a real dad - and that he saw it as a utter failure for him, and somethings he was deeply ashamed about.... I told him, that he had been a good father, even if he had not being around as he might wanted to do it.. And even if we all regrets things in the past - we can not undo it - we have to do things better in the future than we did in the past.. And I gave him a hug - he cried on my sholder.. So I know he regretted it deeply..
And by the way - it was my foster parents who back in the day more or less demanded that we should have some contact with our biological parents - as the childrens service orginally do not wanted us to have any contact with our familiy whats so ever...
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