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WhaTHellsgoingonhere

(5,252 posts)
45. "...reverse the threat of a bad reference"
Thu Apr 16, 2015, 10:39 PM
Apr 2015

Interesting.

Their petty claim against me is I text too much and I've been told that I do on more than one occasion. The texting too much rule only applies to me. We work as a team but we're alone all day in the field. We group text serious things, like "I got a flat tire, can you see this client" or fun stuff like pictures of a meal a client cooked and a statement "He said you have to eat, you're a growing girl."

But because I text to much, I get texts like the one I got the morning of April 10 from my supervisor. "Only make need-to-know texts." The rest of the day, the girls were texting about "sweating their ass off in traffic without a/c" and "client is rolling on the ground with puppies (with pictures)". We all love it, even my supervisor. Oh yeah, she's texting right along with the girls, "Aw, that's so cute!"

I kept all of this.

But the REAL reason they are firing me is that the 21 y/o hates me. I'm not sure why she hates me, but my supervisor sees the eyerolling, head shaking, angry looks, deep breaths, big exhales, and "bitchy faces" (her words!) every time I speak. My supervisor said she sees her do it to the only other male, too, the staff nurse who sits in during our meetings infrequently. My supervisor said it creates tension and makes the meetings awkward.

This began 6 months ago or more. I followed protocol. I talked to her directly about it. She (figuratively) spit in my face. Her behavior didn't change. I talk to her a second time. Same condescending response, behavior didn't change.

Meanwhile, my supervisor kept telling me she would talk to her about it (never did). So I kept pressing my supervisor. Finally, my supervisor said she'll bring us together and the 3 of us will work it out. That never happened. So I kept pressing my supervisor for that meeting.

That's when my director started meeting with me and my supervisor to show her how to supervise. He ranted and told me to get over it while she sat and watched.

In January, I wrote all of this up and emailed it to HR.

I just kept pressing...because "THEY ARE WRONG!"

But it gets better. Last week the director was on vacation so my supervisor went to the top of the food chain and brought in the director's boss, who, totally took my side. She said, "yes, this is wrong. We are a team. We cannot disrespect one another. When it happens it has to stop."

I told the boss's boss that the supervisor and director have never supported me and that I have nowhere to turn. I send texts even because I have no other recourse. Then I made my supervisor answer my question: "Next time it happens, you will do what?" My supervisor said, "Then I will talk to her about it right after the meeting (that's something she does with me but has refused to do with the girl)."

On Wednesday, I texted too much about a client I was driving who was threatening to jump out of my car and run into traffic because he was feeling suicidal and I'm getting fired on Friday.

Say nothing to the employer. elleng Apr 2015 #1
I love this place! WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #4
First, look at the Fair Labor Standards Act. guillaumeb Apr 2015 #2
I love this place x2 WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #3
glad to help guillaumeb Apr 2015 #5
No union. We're helpers. We take care of others. Social workers. We do it for love, not money WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #7
non-profits still have to follow the law. guillaumeb Apr 2015 #9
Age is a qualifier for discrimination. You are old enough. guillaumeb Apr 2015 #11
Yeah, he said that. Each office is an island WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #17
few people have the resources to sue guillaumeb Apr 2015 #19
Attorney said he can get access to all the work EVERYONE... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #23
if you record work interactions electronically guillaumeb Apr 2015 #24
Yep, I've been doing it all remotely all along WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #27
Oh yeah, we all "officially" were asked to work Saturdays... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #6
that is a prima facie violation of the FLSA guillaumeb Apr 2015 #8
I make almost $14/hour! WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #10
Overtime is mandated EXCEPT for exempt employees. guillaumeb Apr 2015 #13
Will do! Absolutely. I felt lost an hour ago. There had to be something better than Google WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #15
I received my training from my union. guillaumeb Apr 2015 #16
HA! I saw Billy Bragg years ago WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #18
really like Billy Bragg guillaumeb Apr 2015 #21
Are you quitting? Let them fire you. And don't do #1. msanthrope Apr 2015 #12
I let them fire me! Director called me after work to tell me... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #14
You aren't fired yet. Sounds like they are trying to fire you msanthrope Apr 2015 #22
OK, so what you are saying is I do as follows: WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #25
Good email, and yes, you can sue and collect msanthrope Apr 2015 #32
Thanks for the advice and reading my email WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #33
should I keep it simple or raise the stakes WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #34
Perfectly fine to add. There's never "too much" msanthrope Apr 2015 #35
Documentation! What do you think about this WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #36
no......I would not do that. I would listen on Friday and document later. msanthrope Apr 2015 #37
and by read them in private, you mean with my attorney? WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #38
Sign nothing. Request copies to take with you, to read in private. msanthrope Apr 2015 #41
Poker Face: That's the kind of stuff I'm not good at and need to be told :D WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #42
I'm not even planning on reading anything WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #39
treble damages rumbling around somewhere. lonestarnot Apr 2015 #20
Good to know. I kind of thought so since there's so much illegal behavior and intimidation WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #26
You might be jumping the gun on suing as that runs into money. gvstn Apr 2015 #28
That's good to know, too WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #31
I just wanted to clarify a bit on how I have seen these things go. gvstn Apr 2015 #43
"...reverse the threat of a bad reference" WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #45
when they ask if I want to make a final statement, can I say... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #47
Again don't go into to much detail about your grievances during any meetings with your supervisors. gvstn Apr 2015 #49
Yeah, when they took sides against me, I started think one thing... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #50
when they ask if I want to make a final statement, can I say... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #48
Talk to a lawyer. This place hates them, like cops flvegan Apr 2015 #29
The whole "fear of losing unemployment" thing gives them so much power WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #30
This is a beautiful thing. Must read my email log with my supervisor WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #40
The DOL is free Omaha Steve Apr 2015 #44
Thanks WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #46
Update #1: They wanted me to quit but wouldn't fire me WhaTHellsgoingonhere Apr 2015 #51
Update #2: If it feels like intimidation, is it intimidation? WhaTHellsgoingonhere May 2015 #52
Update #3: DOL! WhaTHellsgoingonhere May 2015 #53
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