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DirkGently

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14. Obesity is a condition; being an asshole is a choice.

Tue Sep 8, 2015, 10:17 AM

Sep 2015

I've tried to imagine what's going on in the minds of people who feel the need to complain about or mock others for being overweight, or who obsess over their conviction that "It's simple -- just eat less."

My guess is that these are people trying hard to feel superior and don't have a lot of grounds to do it other than the rather un-amazing accomplishment of being thinner than someone else.

Everyone's got something they are working on about themselves, or struggling with. If it were easy to have 100% of our personal acts together, everyone would be perfect, and that pretty obviously is not the case. The fact that physical fitness or body mass or whatever is visible doesn't somehow make it fair game to attack.

What is fair game is people being vicious and willfully stupid. Like this person you mention.

Please don't let this person represent the human race in your mind. Most people are not like this.

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Nicole Arbour argues fat people deserve to be shamed in YouTube rant; offends everyone [View all] Blue_Adept Sep 2015 OP

She's an idjit pinebox Sep 2015 #1

I'm doing my best to avoid surgery Blue_Adept Sep 2015 #2

You need... pinebox Sep 2015 #4

It definitely helps Blue_Adept Sep 2015 #10

Get a book called 'The Plan'. It teaches about inflammation and how to rework your brain roguevalley Sep 2015 #44

I have walked off 120 pounds over five years. It went on slow, it came off slow. She's a stupid roguevalley Sep 2015 #43

She is not even funny. Drahthaardogs Sep 2015 #50

Damn, she is a horrible person. nt DawgHouse Sep 2015 #3

Her comments are stupid, but I really don't care. Oneironaut Sep 2015 #5

Perhaps you don't care because you aren't the target kcr Sep 2015 #41

What you say is true, but I also object to the current internet trend of, Oneironaut Sep 2015 #45

Oh, well kcr Sep 2015 #47

Back around 1949 1939 Sep 2015 #6

I've heard that treestar Sep 2015 #7

Arthur Godfrey was a grade A bastard. Manifestor_of_Light Sep 2015 #26

Do you remember "Fatty, fatty, two by four..." MoonRiver Sep 2015 #13

It goes across cultures 1939 Sep 2015 #22

When my daughter was 3, I almost died from embarrassment. MoonRiver Sep 2015 #24

When I was a kid 1939 Sep 2015 #46

I'm sure she was! MoonRiver Sep 2015 #49

when people are thin and have never been fat treestar Sep 2015 #8

I'm obese too. Such crap doesn't mean shit to me either way whatthehey Sep 2015 #9

Because everyone is different? Blue_Adept Sep 2015 #11

Sure, but can't I be different too? whatthehey Sep 2015 #12

Just because someone feels ashamed doesn't mean the asshole doing the shaming has a valid point. kcr Sep 2015 #42

Obesity is a condition; being an asshole is a choice. DirkGently Sep 2015 #14

I used to believe this. Blue_Adept Sep 2015 #15

Sadly, I agree with you, Blue. CrispyQ Sep 2015 #17

I was the fittest fat girl you ever saw. CrispyQ Sep 2015 #16

"And you'd be a nice person if you weren't such an asshole." mnhtnbb Sep 2015 #20

They just don't get the sympathy that anorexics do. WinkyDink Sep 2015 #18

Who care what some little twit says? Marrah_G Sep 2015 #19

She throws a weird curveball near the end Orrex Sep 2015 #21

Assholes always use "tough love" to justify their abuse meow2u3 Sep 2015 #25

^^That. All of that. Orrex Sep 2015 #36

Her "tough love" is a crock Bettie Sep 2015 #30

I concur (nt) Orrex Sep 2015 #38

I care less than zip what somebody says. Waiting For Everyman Sep 2015 #23

One of my favorite songs! cwydro Sep 2015 #29

So glad Waiting For Everyman Sep 2015 #40

They're convinced you're lazy and just don't get enough exercise and eat too much. Manifestor_of_Light Sep 2015 #27

I used to have a colleague who was massively overweight. SwissTony Sep 2015 #33

There are millions of people who are mistreated or undiagnosed with thyroid problems. Mostly women. Manifestor_of_Light Sep 2015 #34

This is what annoyed me when people decided to jump on that idiot, Kim Davis, cwydro Sep 2015 #28

Suburban airhead who watches too much TV. closeupready Sep 2015 #31

Two observations concerning this Nicole Whatever's remarks... Eleanors38 Sep 2015 #32

Who the hell is Nicole Arbour? hatrack Sep 2015 #35

Who? ScreamingMeemie Sep 2015 #37

What I don't get are the people who think mockery is fine when it suits their... Shandris Sep 2015 #39

And just who in the Sam Hill is Nicole Arbour? KamaAina Sep 2015 #48