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orleans

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48. my heart goes out to you

Reply to mnmoderatedem (Original post)

Thu Nov 23, 2017, 03:00 PM

Nov 2017

i'm very sorry you are going through this.
it sounds like a very devastating experience.

hold tight to the love you have for her and the love she had for you. i believe that is what keeps us together across the great divide.

after my mom passed i started setting a place for her at the table for all the holidays and special occasions, as a way of remembrance, and welcoming her to join us--after all, there was no other place she'd rather be on these special days than with me and my daughter. we even continue to celebrate her birthday with her favorite food and a cake. and today, when i go to my daughter's home, there will be an empty chair and place set at the table. it has become a tradition based in love and the belief that our spirits never die.

i hope you find some comfort today and in the days ahead.

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I lost my mother, and it's even worse than that. [View all] mnmoderatedem Nov 2017 OP

I'm very sorry for your loss. GreenEyedLefty Nov 2017 #1

So very sorry for your profound loss. Zoonart Nov 2017 #2

Very sorry for your loss n2doc Nov 2017 #3

My sympathy to you and family on the loss of your livetohike Nov 2017 #4

That is hard. delisen Nov 2017 #5

I'm sorry for your loss. KTinaY2008 Nov 2017 #6

oh no, so sorry mnmoderatedem Nov 2017 #7

Deepest sympathy Scarsdale Nov 2017 #10

Losing your Mom lindalou65 Nov 2017 #8

My sympathies Moral Compass Nov 2017 #9

condolances AllaN01Bear Nov 2017 #11

Sorry for your loss. Thor_MN Nov 2017 #12

I'm sorry. It seems the holidays bring a whole lot of pain to the surface. Vinca Nov 2017 #13

Faux news preys on the elderly. It should be a scandal. Irish_Dem Nov 2017 #14

Im so sorry for your loss LiberalLoner Nov 2017 #15

I believe that's very true. llmart Nov 2017 #30

My condolences to you dear mnmoderatede Losing your mom is so painful, creating a large hole. MLAA Nov 2017 #16

Solitude is strength bucolic_frolic Nov 2017 #17

Rest in peace shenmue Nov 2017 #18

RIP SWBTATTReg Nov 2017 #19

Im so sorry. mountain grammy Nov 2017 #20

I am so sorry for your loss, especially under these circumstances. Ilsa Nov 2017 #21

My condolences, I lost my mom August 18th, she was age 79. stevenleser Nov 2017 #22

Yes, never feel "I didn't do enough". And my heartfelt sympathy for you, steven, and all who have sprinkleeninow Nov 2017 #67

My sympathies nt Panho Nov 2017 #23

I'm so sorry you lost your mother. sinkingfeeling Nov 2017 #24

My condolences to you and may your Thanksgiving Day be filled with joyful kairos12 Nov 2017 #25

Peace and comfort to you in this time of grief. It is hard losing a parent, but japple Nov 2017 #26

I am so sorry. I hope you will be kind to spooky3 Nov 2017 #27

My condolences. diva77 Nov 2017 #28

So sorry friend MFM008 Nov 2017 #29

I am so sorry. lucca18 Nov 2017 #31

mnmoderatedem, I am sorry for your loss. pdxflyboy Nov 2017 #32

So sorry for your loss. american_ideals Nov 2017 #33

I am so very sorry for your loss. Delmette2.0 Nov 2017 #34

I can't imagine mnmoderatedem Nov 2017 #35

Likewise. Delmette2.0 Nov 2017 #36

what a tragedy Hamlette Nov 2017 #37

I am sorry for your loss. Lifelong Protester Nov 2017 #38

Thank you for sharing your story pandr32 Nov 2017 #39

How sad :( fux spews is a force of evil. BlancheSplanchnik Nov 2017 #40

Sorry seta1950 Nov 2017 #41

RIP, So Very Sorry DarthDem Nov 2017 #42

Wishing you Many Blessings and Good Fortune AnotherDreamWeaver Nov 2017 #43

I'm so so sorry for your loss, and that you're alone today. pnwmom Nov 2017 #44

I've got a place set for her at my table mnmoderatedem Nov 2017 #45

I'm glad to know you had choices, and I understand why you made this one. pnwmom Nov 2017 #49

i think that is perfect. orleans Nov 2017 #50

yup saw that mnmoderatedem Nov 2017 #51

That is a way of remembrance to honor her. sprinkleeninow Nov 2017 #71

Fuck Fox news Egnever Nov 2017 #46

I'm very sorry for your loss MrScorpio Nov 2017 #47

my heart goes out to you orleans Nov 2017 #48

Thank you for saying this. It is most welcomed. sprinkleeninow Nov 2017 #68

thank you for letting me know about this tradition orleans Nov 2017 #69

You are not alone. No one I know personally , but watch the movie lunasun Nov 2017 #52

What a sad story. It sounds like it was a case of bad timing muriel_volestrangler Nov 2017 #53

"I hope you'll remember you have plenty of friends here for Thanksgiving" mnmoderatedem Nov 2017 #54

Honestly, it sounds like ... dawg Nov 2017 #55

mnmoderatedem ... LenaBaby61 Nov 2017 #56

This message was self-deleted by its author lunasun Nov 2017 #57

My heart breaks again Pacifist Patriot Nov 2017 #58

sorry for your loss uponit7771 Nov 2017 #59

I'm so sorry. I can't imagine. moriah Nov 2017 #60

Moms and dads can be difficult malaise Nov 2017 #61

I'm so sorry Raine Nov 2017 #62

So sorry TuxedoKat Nov 2017 #63

I'm so sorry your mother is gone. Honeycombe8 Nov 2017 #64

Very sorry for you loss! Different Drummer Nov 2017 #65

I'm so sorry! Hugs! OhioBlue Nov 2017 #66

Sincere condolences A HERETIC I AM Nov 2017 #70

I'm sorry for your loss. Denis 11 Nov 2017 #72

I'm sorry for your loss. Denis 11 Nov 2017 #73

I picture her up in heaven receiving instant wisdom, and saying to herself, lostnfound Nov 2017 #74

... tavernier Nov 2017 #75