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In reply to the discussion: Wedding etiquette poll [View all]OmahaBlueDog
(10,000 posts)Family politics + booze = crap that people bring up for decades
I think writing the bride was a mistake. I agree with your viewpoint, but it's her day. I'd rely on the parents to step in when the baby acts up. You can't unwrite the letter. What's done is done. I'd also add that many people look at three-week olds as delightful conversation pieces, not impositions.
If I were you: I'd find family members/friends of the family you enjoy talking with, and find your way over to them as soon as possible and see how long you can chat them up without being noticed - and to Hell with the seating chart. Otherwise, agree in advance on a "respectable" timeframe after dinner, but before the end of the reception, to make an exit.
The bride's mom should be too busy with photographs and visiting tables to discuss politics or any other issues.