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In reply to the discussion: Wedding etiquette poll [View all]kimi
(2,441 posts)26. Becca sounds like a very mature & thoughtful woman
I think you're lucky that she's joining the family, frankly!
I probably would have not said anything to her - but that's just me. Weddings are incredibly stressful events, & brides have so much on their minds - so I'm very impressed that she took your message so well. Personally, I might not have, & I know plenty of "bridezillas" who wouldn't have, either. But looks like it'll work out .
FWIW, I understand your concerns. When my ex & I got married, we had a son already, who was 8 months old. We got a babysitter for him - he wasn't at our wedding or reception, due to concerns that you've raised, basically. And ours was not a formal celebration either, but we just didn't want the baby or the guests to feel uncomfortable.
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I think you did/wrote the correct thing. Some people are not bothered by a screaming, poopy baby...
BlueJazz
Jul 2012
#11
It's as much about the presence of the baby (quiet or not) becoming the focus of the dinner table
mnhtnbb
Jul 2012
#15
She's not joining the family--she IS my brother's only daughter and has 4 brothers.
mnhtnbb
Jul 2012
#49
If ya have a kid, stay the heck home and take care of it. BOTH do not HAVE to attend.
benld74
Jul 2012
#23