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In reply to the discussion: It's Father's Day. My father is dead and I don't miss him at all. [View all]Scrivener7
(50,935 posts)20. This is insensitive. No-hypocrisy has described an abusive situation, one which was surely
extremely painful to live through.
You seem to be minimizing it and denying the poster's experience. The comparison you provide to your own parent's action is pretty tone-deaf.
Though you say you are sure no-hypocrisy's father was acting out of love, you are, in fact, NOT sure of that at all. The information you have been given is that he acted cruelly and enjoyed doing so.
Moreover, it is not for anyone to tell the poster how to feel by demanding that they forgive and love their abusive parent. THEY were the one who had the experience. THEY know what happened. You do not.
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It's Father's Day. My father is dead and I don't miss him at all. [View all]
no_hypocrisy
Jun 2022
OP
My mother was hateful to me in a similar way. I am quite sure it was not a misguided love.
Scrivener7
Jun 2022
#2
This is insensitive. No-hypocrisy has described an abusive situation, one which was surely
Scrivener7
Jun 2022
#20
This is not a courtroom. You are not a judge or jury. No one has asked you to make a judgement.
Scrivener7
Jun 2022
#32
I know what you mean. At one time, my father decided that saying "I love you" would somehow ...
eppur_se_muova
Jun 2022
#24
I feel the same. My mothers ex biologic partner was not a good man. He left pain & chaos behind
irisblue
Jun 2022
#5
Good for you. You don't know owe cruelty anything. Especially cruelty against a child.
MLAA
Jun 2022
#19
I can sympathize. My dad was not as cruel as all that, but he just didn't like people at all ...
eppur_se_muova
Jun 2022
#23