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Bereavement

Walleye

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1. Please take care of yourself. My mom died over 30 years ago, I still suffer guilt sometimes

Reply to forgotmylogin (Original post)

Mon Sep 19, 2022, 12:24 PM

Sep 2022

Sometimes I think life demands more of people than we are capable of.

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Lost my mom on Saturday. [View all] forgotmylogin Sep 2022 OP

Please take care of yourself. My mom died over 30 years ago, I still suffer guilt sometimes Walleye Sep 2022 #1

My sympathy on the loss of your Mom. May every good livetohike Sep 2022 #2

You Did A Remarkable Job leftieNanner Sep 2022 #3

My condolences on your loss. CentralMass Sep 2022 #4

Everyone that cares feels like roody Sep 2022 #5

I'm very sorry for your loss. brer cat Sep 2022 #6

I am sorry for your loss but do not beat up yourself. Sounds to me as if you did your best under LoisB Sep 2022 #7

You did well IbogaProject Sep 2022 #8

The funeral home did warn me about the SS check. forgotmylogin Sep 2022 #29

That needs to be fixed IbogaProject Sep 2022 #33

I think you did a wonderful job. You kept her pain free as she negotiated her own passing. MLAA Sep 2022 #9

Be gentle with your self. Wishing comfort and peace to you mahina Sep 2022 #10

I am sorry. murielm99 Sep 2022 #11

So sorry ❤️ littlemissmartypants Sep 2022 #12

Guilty? No my dear!! Tadpole Raisin Sep 2022 #13

I will say the hospice logistics were on point. forgotmylogin Sep 2022 #30

That's wonderful! You had a good team and that is everything Tadpole Raisin Sep 2022 #34

Deepest condolences SheltieLover Sep 2022 #14

please, please relieve your guilt Skittles Sep 2022 #15

It sounds DownriverDem Sep 2022 #16

So sorry for your loss, forgotmylogin. ancianita Sep 2022 #17

End-of-life care is always followed by regret nuxvomica Sep 2022 #18

I, too, had to make the decision about hospice for my mother. There are no easy answers and constant alwaysinasnit Sep 2022 #19

As a former hospice nurse I must say to you Be KIND to yourself. She wouldn't want it flying_wahini Sep 2022 #20

My condolences to you and my sense is that you are a remarkable caretaker, person erronis Sep 2022 #21

Losing your mother is tough Warpy Sep 2022 #22

i think you're leaning into the grief just the way you should. barbtries Sep 2022 #23

I hope so, my cousin was so right about the gobstopper metaphor. forgotmylogin Sep 2022 #31

It sounds like you did a great job and I'm sure your mom appreciated all your care and concern. zuul Sep 2022 #24

PLEASE remember to be kind and gentle and loving with yourself. You have niyad Sep 2022 #25

My god, cilla4progress Sep 2022 #26

Dear friend, you have no cause to feel guilty. You gave your mother the best care anyone could japple Sep 2022 #27

Peace to you. Know that she is at rest and pain-free at last. Be gentle & kind to yourself. Hekate Sep 2022 #28

Thank you to everyone who has replied! forgotmylogin Sep 2022 #32

I hope you quickly realize that none of us is perfect... it's being human... and you'll toss the Karadeniz Sep 2022 #35