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Bereavement
In reply to the discussion: Lost my mom on Saturday. [View all]alwaysinasnit
(5,063 posts)19. I, too, had to make the decision about hospice for my mother. There are no easy answers and constant
second-guessing of all decisions made. My mother died eight years ago yesterday, and I still occasionally ask myself if I could have done things better. I have made peace with myself regarding her care. I hope you find peace too, in the near future. Please don't forget to take care of yourself.
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Please take care of yourself. My mom died over 30 years ago, I still suffer guilt sometimes
Walleye
Sep 2022
#1
I am sorry for your loss but do not beat up yourself. Sounds to me as if you did your best under
LoisB
Sep 2022
#7
I think you did a wonderful job. You kept her pain free as she negotiated her own passing.
MLAA
Sep 2022
#9
I, too, had to make the decision about hospice for my mother. There are no easy answers and constant
alwaysinasnit
Sep 2022
#19
As a former hospice nurse I must say to you Be KIND to yourself. She wouldn't want it
flying_wahini
Sep 2022
#20
My condolences to you and my sense is that you are a remarkable caretaker, person
erronis
Sep 2022
#21
It sounds like you did a great job and I'm sure your mom appreciated all your care and concern.
zuul
Sep 2022
#24
Dear friend, you have no cause to feel guilty. You gave your mother the best care anyone could
japple
Sep 2022
#27