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whoever Rosemary is, she isn't very bright.
I wasn't unemployed. I ran a business for my boss when she was out of town. I know how to run a biz, I know how to do lots of things... did before, do now. I've done jobs that would make lots of money if I were doing them in one situation versus another. After I got a divorce, I went through some big depression stuff. That's illness, not whatever the fuck she'd like to call it. People who are ignorant are too ready to condemn others. Hope she never has to go through any of the shit so many others have. I wouldn't wish it on anyone, even a stupid compassionless fuck.
when I was an undergrad, my ugrad thesis advisor told me to apply to grad school at Yale, but my then husband (I had worked while he was in grad school then returned to finish my degree) had a job that he didn't want to leave. Someone nominated me to apply for a Rhodes Scholarship... you can't do one of those if you're married, fwiw. I had a grant from the Nat'l Endowment for the Arts (for the stuff that I used to do.) But when I got depressed, I lost my confidence and didn't know where to find it again. It's not like I am or was an unemployable person.
One of the things I learned early on, tho, is who you know is as important as what you know. I don't care what anyone says to argue otherwise.. that's simply a fact. (and is also why I am very pro affirmative action... for poor people of any sort who do not start out with the same basic advantages as others - I'm not talking about myself in this situation.)
I live in a place with a waaaay overeducated population for the number of jobs available. My ex has major financial security, even with some big mental health issues. Good insurance - that's important when you have children, and esp. children with health issues themselves. We wanted our kids to be with both of us... of course, he helped to make it possible for this to happen too, but he's not wealthy either.
What would Rosemary have had me do... move my kids away from one parent, when it was to their advantage to be with two? I've never had any sort of public assistance, even with the crappy conditions. Like many others, I would go without before I'd do that, simply b/c of the stigma. I'm also fortunate because I have some wealthy relatives. But who wants to ask for help in any form? Not me. But if I were in the worst of the worst situations, I could call on family members. But those things have strings attached too, believe me.
The grad school where I've been is one of the top in the nation... #1 in scholarly research in the field. Yes, I will find a job. In fact, today I saw a job in a place that sounds like heaven... send vibes, cross fingers, kiss a voodoo doll.
People who have no compassion for the difficulties of others are really worthless, to me. The emotional equivalent of a gutter drunk passed out in three days' worth of piss. For all the Rosemarys on this site - That's you. Hope you gag on it.
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