Reply #5: Thank you for the promise [View All]

[truhavoc]

of weighing my position.

I think you somewhat misunderstood my posting, and think possibly you didn't read it all the way through.

I am very passionate on this debate, more so than probably a lot of homosexuals. I too am about to be married to a wonderful woman in a few months and I fully realize the pure magic of the commitment. Here is most likely my point of dissent, I do not see why a sect of people should be forbidden from experiencing this wonderful event.

You said, "I don't have a right to pick up someone off the street and marry them without their consent. I had to build a relationship and eventually build up the courage to ask for her hand in marriage. It was a privilege to me that she said yes. I did not marry her for any other benefit, but to enhance my life with a person I love. If you want to marry your partner for any other reason than a loving, fulfilling relationship you shouldn't marry."

I agree completely, there are many of those out there that do not truly heed the words "till death do us part", I think what they hear sometimes is "till life gets too rough". Going along with this I feel there are many homosexuals who would love to go through this entire process, commit and share their love with that one special person, and live forever with them just like you and me, but they are forbidden from doing so. What makes their love any less strong? What makes their dedication any less? Why should a equally committed homosexual couple not have even basic courtesies like hospital visitation rights?

The sense I get from you that the call for marriage rights for the homosexual community is only for recognition. This surely is not the case in a lot of situations, and those trying to get recognition through marriage should be looked at in the same light as those such as Britney Spears who do the same thing. I am sure your sister appreciates your acceptance of her, and I think this puts you in a unique position to view this debate. I hope that being around your sister has made you realize that she did not choose to be gay, she was born that way, it is not behavior of choice. When in a few years she falls in love with someone and shares the same sort of relationship that you have with your wife, think about what makes her less deserving of the benefits of marriage. What makes her less deserving of sharing that commitment that you have shared? What makes her less of a citizen, almost less than human in the views of some?