Reply #24: You need to do a couple of things [View All]

[skygazer]

First of all, you need to do exactly what your college friends did - sit her down and tell her firmly and clearly that she is out of control and needs to seek help and if she refuses to, you will have to end the relationship. Be clear and loving about it but be firm.

Second of all, if you do break up, the last thing you need is to immediately hook up with someone else. Give it a rest, for crying out loud! If you really do love your present girlfriend, you are not ready for another relationship.

You're doing her no favors by doing nothing. The longer you stay together unhappily, the more it will hurt when it ends. You need to state the facts and let her decide. And then follow up on it.

Good luck. I feel for you both. It's so hard to live with a depressive (I am one) - you want to help them but the truth is, you can't. And it's a drag when everything you offer is not good enough.