Reply #90: Yes, reunions suck. But be glad she asked you. It'd be a gift to her... [View All]

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...if you went. It's something she wants to do, and she wants to do it with you -- and if you can just let go of a few hours of your time, you'd make her very happy.

A couple of years ago, I went with my wife to her 25th reunion. Now, I hate these kinds of canned shindigs, but I can actually shift into a mode where I can have a reasonably good time. Before you know it, the night is over, and you're free again. In the meantime, you've given sort of a gift to your spouse -- she gets to enjoy the evening, and she gets to be proud of her husband.

There's no right or wrong here, it's just doing something nice for her. She knows that you don't want to go; so if you do, it'll mean all the more to her.

One more thing -- if you go, **no** bitching, no matter how difficult it is on you. Without any resentment, just give her the night that she wants. It'll come back to you in a good way!

Hang in there -- :toast:

On edit: Remember, there will be many spouses/partners there -- men and women -- who are in the same boat as you (not their idea of a good time, either). There's your icebreaker, and there are some very interesting conversations to be had with those who have no particular stake in the reunion itself.