Reply #21: maybe I can explain as someone who has been through this [View All]

[Kadie]

All of my life I planned on adopting children. Don't know why, it was something that was just a part of me.

But something happened. I got this unexplainable feeling, I wanted, no needed to have a baby. Not just have children, but the whole experience, pregnancy, birth, looking for family features in a new little face.

My husband and I knew that we would have difficulties, but we went through almost 10 years of infertility before we got off the infertility treadmill. Things that keep you going are; friends and family members announcing their pregnancies, doctors constantly giving you just a little bit of hope. You keep going until you just can't go anymore. The need can be very very strong.

I was one of the lucky ones. The doctors finally found out exactly why I could not get pregnant. It closed and locked that door for me. It made it a lot easier to go on to the next step. I now have a wonderful son and am thinking about adopting another child. But, I never would have made it to this point without going through the other steps first.

My heart goes out to this couple. I wish them peace.