Reply #29: I have had serious bouts of depression at holiday time..One year I bought [View All]

[SoCalDem]

a tree, and then left it on the porch..still bound up.. Tossed it Jan 1..still wrapped up..:(

I cannot EVER remember a truly joyous holiday.. I go through the motions, and when the boys were little, they always enjoyed them because I forced myself to "do it all" for them..

Now that they are grown, we don't even put up a tree..

When we were first married, I went all out, but my husband did not seem to care one way or the other, so at the first opportunity, I just stopped doing it...

I buy presents for my kids (money now) and my best friend, but that's it.. My husband has never gone out of his way to surprise me, so I quit that too..

(In his defense.. he was raised as an only child born when his mother was 45 and his dad 60...apparently they were never very good at teaching him ..and I just gave up after 10 years or so,...He buys what he wants, and so do I..)