Reply #21: I've learned a thing or two from past relationships. [View All]

[SeattleGirl]

1. Abusers don't stop abusing.

2. To quote Randi Rhodes: "When someone shows you who they are, believe them." That can be applied equally to positive and negative qualities about a person.

3. If you can't be who you really are in a relationship, the relationship is a lie.

4. Sex should be as equally important to both of you (on a scale from not very important to very important).

5. Communication, communication, communication. And, as a sub-text to that, if it's often difficult for you to talk to each other about things (even non-threatening things), that could be a problem.

6. Honesty, trust, and respect are essential ingredients in a good relationship.

There are probably more I could think of, but those are the ones that came up right away for me.