Reply #22: Sorry; I think he may have been getting off on the control. [View All]

[lildreamer316]

Young guys also (please see my disclaimer in the above post!) seem to fall into the trap at this age. They don't know how to get what they want, or to ask for it correctly. They find that many young women they encounter will transform themselves (because they don't know any better either!!); and for a while (sometimes forever) they get a thrill out of the control they have.
Of course this is not good for either party.
Either they learn, and move on to a healthier relationship; or they don't.

I believe our problem (myself and the others who agree with me on this thread) is that we were hoping that if SHE didn't know better; he would be a caring enough/decent enough person to know better himself; and just break up with her or explain to her about what he wanted/her lack of self esteem. Of course we are probably expecting too much from young people that really have not fully grown up yet.

He could have been more polite than to tell her he wanted her to look like a model; even if he did. It smacks of control. It was unecessary and rude and hurtful. And ultimately; DUMB.