Reply #3: Who said anything about tact? [View All]

[Courtesy Flush]

I don't care if I'm tactful. But I really wish I had the words to convince her she needs to leave this jerk.

This guy has a few arrests under his belt. I can forgive that. People make mistakes. But he hasn't learned any lessons from his. and continues to plow ahead. He married our niece in a bar. The girl was 21 years old and getting married in a bar. I'm sorry, but I just can't see how that equates to respect for your bride. You have your fifth wedding in a bar. Not your first.

All that we overlooked, but the violence is completely non-negotiable.

I've been married 24 years. Before we got married, I told my wife that if I ever raised a hand to her, she should not give me a second chance, because I wouldn't deserve it. Several years later she recalled that conversation and amended it. She said that if I ever hit her she would kick my ass -- then leave me. And she'd be right to do so.

If you can't respect the person you're married to, you have no foundation.