Reply #38: Thanks, that is what I thought. You don't have any kids, just judgements. [View All]

[renie408]

"Ridiculous"? Really? What do you suppose is motivating those kids? Just that they are spoiled monsters? My personal experience with my two kids is that they only acted in the manner you are describing when they were worn out. The answer was rarely discipline, but empathy. Pick them up, soothe them, remove them from the overstimulating situation. I don't think small children can even be 'bad'. They are maneuvering through their world using the tools available to them. They get tired and cranky and overstimulated. Then they become annoying as hell.

I have two kids and I cannot recall the oldest one ever throwing a fit in either a store or a restaurant. The youngest one is a little more easily geared up and she did it a few times. As I recall, picking her up and calming her down worked. I do remember either me or my husband taking her outside when we were at a restaurant and letting her calm down and starting over. It just never seemed like a 'discipline' problem to me. She wasn't throwing a fit to be 'bad'. She was either tired or excited or just couldn't control herself. It seems futile and cruel to discipline a little kid for that. She's nine now and is a polite and well-behaved kid.

I could write reams about my kids, but suffice it to say that they are both great kids, easy to be around, polite and well mannered. I do agree that Nanny 911 is a good show, BTW, and I don't 'believe' in spanking. That doesn't mean I haven't ever done it, just that I knew then and know now that I was resorting to spanking because I had run out of options in that moment. What I am saying is that parenting is the hardest thing I have ever done. It is 24/7, 365. It is not amazing to me that people do things wrong. Your approach to this seems so judgemental to me. I don't disagree with you that much, really. I guess I just find your reaction overly harsh.