Tomorrow is my mother's funeral and she chose to have it at [View All]

[erinlough]

the church we all grew up in. I am no longer a member, but I support her wishes completely. That is the background for the story I am about to relate. Today the minister of the church, Lutheran, came to my sister and asked her to clarify some dates for him. He questioned the date of my parents marriage, and the date of my oldest sister's birth.

It is the truth that my mother, 87, was pregnant when she was married. In shame she lied about the date of her wedding to everyone and that burden caused her great pain and shame for 60 years. When we were planning my parents 60th wedding anniversary mom, in tears, told us the truth. We all talked about how sad it seemed now to think that she had kept her secret so long and suffered so with the shame she felt. It was very emotional for her, but she felt good that it meant nothing to us, her daughters, and that the secret was no more.

Now this sanctimonious ass brings it all up again, and for what????? My sister asked him why he needed clarification and he couldn't answer. I know some of you might say he was writing his sermon, but I think he was just being nosy. Then he comes to the funeral home and insists on doing a prayer with the family even though we told him it wouldn't be necessary.

This is why I am no longer a christian. I have had other incidents with clergy that have been as bad with judging. I am writing to this forum because I know some of you are members of the clergy and I know you mean well, but for goodness sake have some feelings. The religion seems to give some people the feeling they have the right to judge and that judgment brings pain to the judged. If there is indeed a judge I will meet him in another world, but I will not tolerate it here on earth. Here, you are just like me, no better, no worse.