Reply #1: Well, my two cents. [View All]

[NYC_SKP]

I taught exclusively at risk youth, half my years at juvenile hall and with many sped students.

I do not think I ever, ever, said shut up to any students. Ever.

It is terribly wrong to say this to a first grader, worse to shout it.

Now, some will think you should "report" this matter immediately to the monitor's superior.

I suggest that, while you might want to do this, you also have every right to confront speak calmly with the monitor.

Somehow these days people seem more likely to look for the supervisor of a misbehaving person rather than to address the matter more directly.

The old-school in me says that there's nothing wrong with talking to the monitor first and giving them a chance to respond.

Reporting them as a first response might have no impact, or it might bring consequences more severe than needed.

Either way, it pulls into the situation yet another person and can just make things messier.

So, my advice is to talk to the monitor about your concerns to gauge their emotional makeup.

If they are embarrassed and apologetic, maybe that conversation is enough.

If they're defensive or claim innocence while you know otherwise, then take it to their supervisor.

Good luck.