Reply #20: it is ok.... you didn't upset me...I do run into this all the time... [View All]

[Evasporque]

just slow down and breathe a bit and think. trans people in the throws of transition are a grand exception to the culturally accepted gender binary. People also operate on instinct. We as a species are very adept at recognizing sexual gender via numerous visual and auditory queues. This is subconscious. Overcoming that take a little energy.

It is surprising that once you are queued into the subtleties of gender differentiation in the conscious realm suddenly the world no longer looks so distinctly male and female. There is a lot of space in between. And people who you think are one sex but are genetically another seem to be more numerous that one thought.

What I have run into is people are now subconsciously reading me as female then something trips in them and they "clock" me as trans or a male that looks like a woman. Most ignore this observation but some do not.

My favorite is sometimes the unisex bathroom is in use and I duck into the mens room to pee. As I am washing my hands a guy walks in and stops dead in his tracks turns around and checks the sign next to the door...and stumbles through some kind of unnecessary apology...as one of my transwomen acquaintances says..."use it while you still have it".

In regards to a certain male specific bathroom fixture.