Reply #40: Well yeah, there's that... [View All]

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...and then just how you would normally act, around people you feel comfortable with. I'm sure gay people sometimes disguise who they are, as do straight people. How I would act in front of a boss or somebody, is different than how I would act around my friends.

But it sounds like you are trying to combine the two, and that's what I didn't agree with. I think at some point, everyone "wears a mask" for one reason or another. But I wouldn't extend that to say that gay people that don't act "ultra-gay" are denying themselves, or something. I don't have a lot of the "typical" gay characteristics, and most people who just met me probably wouldn't assume I'm gay. That's not me hiding it per se, that's just me being me. If you want to call it masculine (I wouldn't, I don't particularly like that term for some reason), or "straight-acting," or whatever, so be it.