Reply #8: If you contrast your experience [View All]

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with mine we might appear to be on opposite sides of the issue, but I completely agree that it's all about choice, not about what choices people make.

I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. That was my choice. We made big financial sacrifices for me to do it, but did so with our eyes open. I know that there are many good reasons why women make different choices. What I'm very much for is real solidarity - that is to say, we impose way too much guilt on ourselves as it is. Women should be less competitive with each other and more supportive and accepting. God, do I sound like a fantasist!

I do have issues with what I call the Cambridge/Brookline grandsupermoms. By that I mean very upscale women who had their kids so late that they treat the little darlings as if they were their own grandkids. But that does not relate to feminism, and is really a different topic for a different thread....