Reply #74: It's always hard... [View All]

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With mothers. Especially the crazymaking kind. There is always the desire to create the relationship that you never had or never can have. We project so much of our self-worth and indentity in the figure of our mother and it really has more to do with ourselves then with them, as individuals. It's very hard to let go. I watched this with my own mother and her mother, it was worse for her because she was the typical abused child, always waiting for the love and approval that never came, and always angry as a defense against further hurt. Even after my grandmother's death, it was hard, because we then can internalize them. It ain't easy.

Take care of yourself, first. :hug: