Reply #82: And some times it is complicated [View All]

[rustydad]

My youngest daughter was thirteen when she spent the night at her older, married sister's home. Somehow she ended up alone with her brother in law for a few hours. She liked to drink and was not a virgin. She also liked to flirt (this was the (80's). So they drank and he ended up having sex with her. A drunk thirteen year old, against her less than forceful will.

I only learned about this many years later. The sisters talked and decided that for the sake of my older daughters family, their two young children, they would not send the dad to prison. They are still married and have two very wonderful young adults that I love with all my heart.

My youngest had a lot of difficult relationships over the years after that but did marry and did have two wonderful children. Her husband left her to marry the girls grammar school teacher.

But he carries his own sexual scars having been raped at the age of 8 by an escaped convict as he walked home from school.

And my brother in law carried sexual baggage because his father, a pharmacist, was caught in a sting operation agreeing to trade drugs to an undercover cop for sex. He went to prison and my then teenage brother in law had to support the family, his mom and two young brothers.

We humans are a very scary race.And few things are cut and dry simple. I wish folks here at DU could be aware of the complicity of the many issues we discuss. Very few thing are pure black and white. B