Iraq's Family Bonds Complicate U.S. Efforts

[Tom Yossarian Joad]

http://www.nytimes.com/2003/09/28/international/middleeast/28CLAN.html?ex=1065326400&en=f7ca5e48e9e34b89&ei=5062&partner=GOOGLE

— Iqbal Muhammad does not recall her first glimpse of her future husband, because they were both newborns at the time, but she remembers precisely when she knew he was the one. It was the afternoon her uncle walked over from his house next door and proposed that she marry his son Muhammad.


"I was a little surprised, but I knew right away it was a wise choice," she said, recalling that afternoon nine years ago, when she and Muhammad were both 22. "It is safer to marry a cousin than a stranger."

Her reaction was typical in a country where nearly half of marriages are between first or second cousins, a statistic that is one of the more important and least understood differences between Iraq and America. The extraordinarily strong family bonds complicate virtually everything Americans are trying to do here, from finding Saddam Hussein to changing women's status to creating a liberal democracy.

"Americans just don't understand what a different world Iraq is because of these highly unusual cousin marriages," said Robin Fox of Rutgers University, the author of "Kinship and Marriage," a widely used anthropology textbook. "Liberal democracy is based on the Western idea of autonomous individuals committed to a public good, but that's not how members of these tight and bounded kin groups see the world. Their world is divided into two groups: kin and strangers."
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[SharonAnn]

1. Hmmm, sounds just like right here, in East Tennessee

If you're not "from here", then you're an outsider. Of course, if you're "from here" you're kin to others who are "from here".

[izzie]

2. When I was in Saudie they did a lot of talking about this.....

Gov was trying to stop first from doing it.