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is better education.
I don't care at all about the religious right and others who try to eliminate one choice for young adults and teenagers. Sex is sex is sex, and it's been around for millennia, and whether you're 50 or 20 or even 15, the curiosity pertaining to it is going to win over almost every single time. If the kids aren't sexually active by the time they're 15 or 16, they are most likely familiar already (both boys and girls) with masturbation as an alternative. Either way, they are not performing abstinence at any rate.
The religious and not so religious right wants, as usual, to stifle the awareness of sex, and deny the existence of sex outside of a marriage, no matter how obvious it is that it goes on all the time and will continue to do so. As I've often mentioned in the past, they will allow continued violence in the media, for example, and not allow simple biology to be shown instead. It's one of the areas in which their hypocrisy is most evident.
Teens and young adults are going to do what they want, regardless of their parents' stand on a subject, Instead of trying to stop them, the best response is to make certain they are knowledgeable to the greatest extent possible, and hope that their upbringing will help them make the decisions they need to in respect to their sexual activities. If they are treated as children even into their late teens, they are not going to be able to make adult decisions, which will be what propels them into making tough decisions on their own.
The "talk" should come when they are beginning to be aware of the differences between girls and boys, and not put off into later years, by which time they will already have learned about sex through other sources, and which may have inconsistencies and outright falsehoods. In fact, the "talk" should not even exist, because for the child and parent involved, talk about sex should be an open dialogue. The facts about physiology should be first, and as the child gets gradually older, the conversations on the subject should go from physiological to psychological, as the child matures.
My sister was pregnant at 17, and my niece was also 17 when she had her child, and it's the kind of never-ending cycle that happens when facts are not emphasized. But it's also true that some children will completely ignore the facts and opt for unprotected sex regardless of how much they know about the consequences. It's only by knowing the psychological aspects as well that some might stop for a minute to consider what they are doing.
Since even young children are online and know their way around a website, it can become more important to offer education at a younger age. However, most 9 and 10 year olds are, for the most part, not really interested in sex, and educating them will likely not make a major impact on them for a couple of years. Still, learning why there are no many naked or bare-chested women on certain websites can help them understand the subject instead of it being taboo.
As always, rather than the Repubs and the religious right burying their heads in the sand, frank conversations and an open mind are more crucial in the end. Let's hope that parents learn that instead of being in denial.
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