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Edited on Wed Jun-13-07 02:57 PM by Mark D.
There is so much in the bigger picture surrounding this disgusting practice. First. Short-sighted self-centered people. Since couples more often, if they prefer a future child to be a certain gender, would pick male. From the very self centered 'to continue the surname' to the men saying 'so I can throw a baseball around with the kid' (not surprising in a world where what a dad will think more often takes priority). Then the mom's classic 'a boy for me' view won't help matters either. They participate in that girl hate.
It's a larger reality. In an over populated world, in fundamentalist homes & in the growing Latino population (overwhelmingly Catholic and also anti birth control) we see a 'baby-boom' happening. My beliefs, my desire to have a big family, my this-my that. Forget the impact on the world that can hardly sustain the population of 20 years ago let alone today also.
Well, as surely as it applies to family size it applies to couples who'll have boys instead of girls over there who can choose to, or who use what something not designed for that (abortion) to fix the numbers, or worse, infanticide. Clearly 'illegal' in those paces, but likely given a blind eye by the bastards who run the place who may consider such things too.
It's a simple case of what's best for the world, or for that child (as a smaller number of kids means each kid gets more...attention, & stuff in general, just doesn't matter. Selfishness is why overpopulation is not a consideration in large families. It's also why kids are seen as tools for self-centered purposes. Just the basic premise "I want" or "We want" a kid screams selfishness. Not that parents are selfish in general, that's not the point, but there is no other consideration.
It explains why more intelligent folks tend to have smaller families in a lot of cases & places on average. They know better...and maybe, just maybe, not driven by fundamentalism, a way to control the poor and not-so-bright, so often, they want to do something positive, in their own way, with their own sacrifices (ie. stopping at 1-2 kids). Ultimately, to change this, there needs to be a sea change of folks taking the focus off just what they want. But that won't be easy...
I've long since given up on a lot of that. Empathy vs. sociopathy, it's clearly a catalyst in the struggle of Republican vs. Democrat and criminal vs. law enforcement. The job of law enforcement is to help others. The job of the criminal is to help themselves. Same in many ways for Republicans, there purely to help those who own, run, or invest in big corporations, and fool the rest (that's where the sociopathy comes in) who don't benefit to think they do, as they'd say they 'see things their way'. Be it bigotry, 'faith', and so on.
There is another factor. Hatred of women. Many who take this view likely hate women in general. They see numbers showing there are are more women than men in most places, and it's true, though it is also true that the numbers don't favor women until you get up over the age 40. In the age of dating and marriage below that... when most of it happens...the numbers are the same, or, slightly favoring men, since slightly more boys are born versus girls...
A man, that father, who has 'already got HIS woman' need never care if his choice of a boy or boys as kids affects others. It will even affect his own kids, when they grow up and find the neighborhood they live in is 70/30 boy/girl. WTF? But then... again...remember, they don't care what happens to anyone but them. They'll be dead by then, and they did find a woman...
But the main problem is this. The biggest sea-change may not address this. I mean, there would have to be strict laws and they would have to be rigorously enforced. You can't lecture or 'guide' one who's naturally sociopathic, or self-centered, to care more about others as often as we'd like to think. If we explain it well, and they even understand, the mindset of 'but how does that benefit me' kicks in and overrides that.
I know someone who voted GOP his whole life until the Bush pushed law that took overtime away from many people, that included his nurse/wife. Suddenly it mattered. For some, 'the only thing they understand is a wall against their backs' (Paul Weller) and this won't change. We really can only treat the symptoms...and hope for the best.
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