The witness was only a minor delay. We called the courthouse, and their automated service stated that it had to be a witness who knew both of us, so a secretary, clerk, or bailiff wouldn't count.
We live in Iowa City -- Johnson County.
One thing I just read did help cheer me up -- the judge's arguments:
http://www.gaycitynews.com/site/news.cfm?newsid=18768968&BRD=2729&PAG=461&dept_id=568864&rfi=6My first impression when I heard about the case was that we better get married immediately, because it would be stayed next week and then overturned on appeal. My assumption was that it was a judge who was operating under a "consequences be damned; this is the right thing to do" attitude. But, wow -- this judge put together a really solid ruling that should be hard for even a reluctant supreme court to overturn.
Here's one of my favorite parts from the article:
"The heart of the opinion for many will be the extensive summary of factual findings, based almost entirely on factual assertions about which both sides were in total agreement. Hanson noted that some of the plaintiffs' factual assertions were not effectively countered by the defendants, leaving them essentially unchallenged. As a result, in total, the factual summary reads like a friend-of-the-court brief submitted by a gay rights organization."
Polk apparently put forth a really poor defense, relying on old, easily counterable arguments for keeping the DOMA: promoting procreation, child rearing by a mother and father in a marriage relationship, promoting stability in opposite-sex relationships, conservation of state and private resources, and promoting traditional marriage. On the other hand, the plaintiffs put forward peer-reviewed scientific studies, which the judge was essentially forced to admit, which trashed all of those claims. The result was a completely lopsided case. The judge then went above and beyond -- essentially preparing the case for supreme court review by showing that the DOMA doesn't hold up to even the most lenient standard of judicial review -- the "rational basis". He basically tossed the last of Polk's pro-DOMA arguments, pointing out that "promoting traditional marriage" basically equates to "that is the way things have always been done", an argument so transparent and weak that even Scalia' dissent on the Texas sodomy ruling dispensed with it. He then showed that, given the peer-reviewed studies entered into evidence, none of the claimed interests of the DOMA was advanced by having it around, so it fails the rational basis. Then he went on to cite rulings from other parts of the country, and on, and on... I was quite impressed.
Any clue if, on appeal, the fundamental arguments being made to defend the DOMA will be able to be changed, or if they're going to have to keep defending the DOMA along the same basic line of arguments that they did this time?