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First, my father was a member of the Washington print press for 50 years, writing articles from his sick bed
until cancer snuffed the life out of him. Through him, I met politicians since before I even knew what a politician
was. My first visit to the White House was to meet Lyndon Johnson at age 13. My father had two friends named Bob
in the Senate in the late 60s--one named Kennedy, one named Dole. When he was elected president of the Gridiron
Club in 1995, I got to meet Bill Clinton and Al Gore for the first time. His journalist friends are now almost
all gone, but Helen Thomas is still there, writing away.
Second, 11 years ago, I was invited to join a yearly New Year's gathering in South Carolina called Renaissance
Weekend, sort of a meeting of the minds type of thing. People from all walks of life are invited--Nobel Prize
winners and other notables in physics, literature, medicine (from Bill Phillips to Dr. Ruth), politicians, mostly
Democratic, but some not, musicians, photographers, historians (lectures of Rufus Fears are amazing), etc. Ted
Sorensen was a regular. This was where I met Howard Dean some ten years ago. Valerie Plame and Joe Wilson were
there for the second time this year. I was nominated by a friend who had written a cult sci-fi novel. Why they
accepted me, a mere mortal, I still don't know (maybe the committee was bored that day?), but it is pure mind
candy, and I go with my family now every New Year. Gaby Giffords has been a regular for several years now, too,
which is how I met her.
To give you an idea of where I come from, here is the last column my dad wrote, which appeared less than ten days
before he died:
BAD NEWS CAN'T NEGATE A WONDERFUL LIFE< FROM WASHINGTON
By (My dad)
This is a column I was hoping not to have to write, especially this soon. Readers of this space know that I have been under treatment for pancreatic cancer for about nine months.
The treatment, mostly medication, plus chemotherapy infusions at an oncologist's office, was part of a study program approved by the Food and Drug Administration and involved chemo applications whenever the blood counts were adequate to sustain it.
It was designed for three treatments, one in each of successive weeks, followed by a week of "rest," during which the cells would have a chance to recover.
For me the treatment went in fits and starts. Only once did I complete a three-week cycle. Every six weeks a laboratory radiological office took X-rays to measure what was happening to the cancer, although pancreatic cancer is extremely difficult to read on X-rays.
About 10 days ago I got the bad news from the oncologist. The chemo treatment, which had been interrupted three times for infections and, most recently was accompanied by a substantial swelling of body fluid, had done about all it could to stem the tumor growth and stabilize it.
One other alternative he had held out was to switch to a different chemo protocol, but he determined that, not only was that treatment less effective than the one just halted, but might well have made me sicker.
He said I had put up an amazing fight and he would never have expected me to last as long as I had.
I was fully aware that the odds on stabilizing the cancer - it could never be cured - were tiny, but I had hoped I might have been in the small minority of those who survived. Ironically, my predecessor in writing politics for the Times, William E. Pearson, died of pancreatic cancer.
In the course of recent treatment my feet had become so swollen they could hardly fit into shoes or slippers, particularly when I was wearing socks; my legs began to look like a linebacker's, as opposed to my normally skinny appearance, and my belly had grown to a point that made me look as if I were pregnant. It was not unlike the famed Demi Moore magazine cover.
Medication I had taken to get rid of some of the fluid was not working.
And that left: Nothing.
In other words, treatment, except for medication to ease various problems - luckily I have been virtually pain-free during the whole procedure - provided no solution, and all that we could do was prepare for the end.
The obvious question was the length of time I had remaining, and the oncologist volunteered, "It could be weeks, it could be months."
If I had my druthers, naturally, I would choose months, but that is not up to me.
We have already had three visits from specialists from The Hospice of Northern Virginia: an overall supervisor, a nurse and a community affairs expert. This organization is a marvel.
It pays the full cost of prescription drugs - when our company insurance policy was subordinated to Medicare B, the drug coverage my wife Nancy and I had enjoyed at 70 percent of cost was eliminated - as well as the rental of a wheelchair. The drugs are delivered to the house.
Signing up for drug coverage for my wife under the AARP schedule would have been too expensive - the highest premium and only a small percentage of drug costs covered.
The Hospice people are on call 24 hours a day, have a small place where patients can stay if their spouses or significant others are exhausted from caring for their loved ones and offer expert medical advice. The swelling in my lower legs and feet, surprisingly, has already gone down with the experimental use of a diuretic drug, generic name aldactone, three times a day, rather than one or two.
The symptom to watch out for is dizziness, and, so far, happily, I have had none.
The inevitability of the situation, however, means Nancy has had to consult with accounting and legal firms to make sure all the necessary papers are up to date. I have to think about getting rid of mountains of clothes - dressing well was a weakness I never overcame - and piles of books and newspaper clippings and letters from VIPs. If that all sounds suspiciously like the angst Frank Augustine described in his throwing out a lifetime of correspondence, it should.
The family has already put in a bid for photographs, from college, from Army service in World War II, from journalistic trips around the world and superb color photographs of us with Presidents Reagan, Bush and Clinton and Sen.-elect Hillary Rodham Clinton.
There are all the drafts of lyrics I wrote for 25 years of Gridiron Club shows, notes from the president, members of Congress and diplomats, virtually every one of which is destined for the round file.
With my continuing columns I remain the "dean" of the New York news media in Washington, as well as the correspondent with the longest stretch of news reporting of any newspaperman in the capital.
That must now come to an end, though not immediately, and, of course, I shall fight to push the envelope as far as I can, with the wonderful support I have received from relatives, friends, colleagues and neighbors. They have held us in their prayers, and we are tremendously grateful.
Hearst columnist Marianne Means and her husband, columnist James Jackson Kilpatrick, gave us an orchid plant about three weeks ago, and, in a small miracle, it is still putting out creamy white buds and flowers long after it should have succumbed.
It could be a sign, but we are realistic enough not to bet the farm on it.
There is a line in the song "A Nightingale Sang in Berkley Square" that insists, "The age of miracles hasn't passed."
Only time sets the parameters. Until the body gives out (for the spirit never will), then I will have to call it a life.
The hour for feeling sorry for myself has passed. I envy those, like the 90-year-old woman profiled by John Golden in the Times recently; like my erstwhile partners on the tennis court and fellow performers at Gridiron rehearsals.
The incoming Gridiron president, Andrew Glass of the Cox Newspapers, wants me to serve as the club treasurer until my physical capabilities tell me, "Enough." Then a successor can be named.
I could complain that fate had dealt me a less-than-optimum hand, but that would serve no purpose and would ignore the many problems of those less fortunate than I.
I'm still here, and I want to write until the keyboard fails to respond to my fingers and my voice can no longer draw information from those to whom I speak on the telephone.
I don't know how near the end is, nor will I spend time worrying about it. It has been a wonderful life, personally and professionally, and the recognition of that from so many whom I love and respect leaves no room for regrets.
So, agree with what I write or not, don't stop reading. Each day has to bring a new miracle with it.
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