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Viva_La_Revolution (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 12:46 PM Original message |
One in Four Americans Provide Unpaid Care to an Adult |
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Solly Mack (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 12:47 PM Response to Original message |
1. K&R |
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jtrockville (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 01:04 PM Response to Original message |
2. Just curious: How does that compare with developed nations? |
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SomeGuyInEagan (872 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-19-11 11:09 AM Response to Reply #2 |
60. I think that is a key question |
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MineralMan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 01:08 PM Response to Original message |
3. Yup. My wife and I help her mom with all sorts of things. |
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RKP5637 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 01:18 PM Response to Reply #3 |
6. When I was young some of my family lived in generational houses. When more |
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wordpix (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 07:05 PM Response to Reply #3 |
39. everything is so much easier when you have family who help out |
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DesertFlower (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 01:15 PM Response to Original message |
4. my mom had dementia. i let her live on |
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mikeiddy (218 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 01:58 PM Response to Reply #4 |
14. Mine also |
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Maat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 02:22 PM Response to Reply #14 |
18. We refused to go along with a professional conservator. |
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DesertFlower (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 02:25 PM Response to Reply #14 |
20. our doctor said to me "you've got to get |
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laylah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 03:40 PM Response to Reply #14 |
27. ... |
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Maat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 02:18 PM Response to Reply #4 |
15. We just took a conservatorship over our mom (sister and I). |
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DesertFlower (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 03:01 PM Response to Reply #15 |
24. even doctors put their parents into |
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Dappleganger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 08:27 PM Response to Reply #24 |
73. Many parents are just unrealistic... |
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Dulcinea (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-19-11 10:35 AM Response to Reply #4 |
58. Same here. |
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CTyankee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-08-11 10:00 AM Response to Reply #4 |
82. My mother was in a great assisted living facility. |
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Downwinder (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 01:18 PM Response to Original message |
5. I salute you. The hardest job you will ever have and |
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msongs (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 01:28 PM Response to Original message |
7. retirement funds are only getting .oooooooooooooooo5% interest these days nt |
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Kolesar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 01:50 PM Response to Reply #7 |
12. buy an annuity |
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DesertFlower (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 03:05 PM Response to Reply #12 |
25. but you lose the principal, right? |
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Kolesar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 06:36 PM Response to Reply #25 |
34. Yes. You can structure it to pay two beneficiaries, though |
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DesertFlower (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 06:46 PM Response to Reply #34 |
35. thanks. hubby's 401k is with fidelity. |
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Dappleganger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 08:29 PM Response to Reply #34 |
74. We set up an annuity for my father |
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rayofreason (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 01:34 PM Response to Original message |
8. I don't get it... |
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totodeinhere (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 01:39 PM Response to Reply #8 |
10. I agree with you 100%. If my parents ever need care I will gladly give it to them and |
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Habibi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 08:20 PM Response to Reply #10 |
46. You're wrong. |
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totodeinhere (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 09:32 PM Response to Reply #46 |
49. I am not entirely wrong. You can claim an elderly parent as a dependant under |
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No Elephants (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-21-11 09:00 AM Response to Reply #10 |
80. Toto, that is easier said that done. Alzheimer's patients, for example, really need |
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mntleo2 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 01:56 PM Response to Reply #8 |
13. Women lose about $275,000 because of this unpaid care |
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RainDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 08:13 PM Response to Reply #13 |
44. yep |
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Cleita (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 01:38 PM Response to Original message |
9. I did 24/7 for seven years for my DH. |
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wordpix (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 07:05 PM Response to Reply #9 |
40. that's too much, you needed more support |
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Kolesar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 01:49 PM Response to Original message |
11. My brother moved "back home" to help my mother, ran up $90,000 debt |
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alp227 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 02:19 PM Response to Original message |
16. any outrage from those "pro-life"...oh wait pro-fetus activists? n/t |
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slackmaster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 02:21 PM Response to Original message |
17. Similar situations have existed within my family etc. at all times for as long as I can remember |
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Maat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 02:25 PM Response to Reply #17 |
19. It probably isn't news ... |
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DesertFlower (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 06:50 PM Response to Reply #19 |
36. when my mom was in the hospital most of |
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Islandlife (135 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 02:31 PM Response to Original message |
21. Personal responsibility |
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DesertFlower (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 03:37 PM Response to Reply #21 |
26. IMO it has nothing to do with |
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Islandlife (135 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 05:10 PM Response to Reply #26 |
31. Exactly |
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Commie Pinko Dirtbag (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 07:14 PM Response to Reply #31 |
69. Probably something evil and anti-personal-responsibility |
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ieoeja (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 03:47 PM Response to Reply #21 |
28. "family member, partner or friend" |
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wordpix (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 07:14 PM Response to Reply #21 |
42. no one expects to be compensated; however, if only one person does the heavy lifting |
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Habibi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 08:17 PM Response to Reply #42 |
45. +1000 |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-19-11 10:23 AM Response to Reply #45 |
57. And then the caregiver is on their own for health care. Unless s/he qualifies for Medicare. nt |
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Habibi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-19-11 11:25 AM Response to Reply #57 |
62. Yes, and good luck with that. |
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DissedByBush (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 02:38 PM Response to Original message |
22. It simply means |
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Bennyboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 02:55 PM Response to Original message |
23. What about "Barely Paid care"? |
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saras (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 04:33 PM Response to Original message |
29. I met my partner because they came home to care for their mother |
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izquierdista (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 04:42 PM Response to Original message |
30. Does everything have a price? |
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Marthe48 (473 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 05:39 PM Response to Original message |
32. We cared for numerous aged relatives |
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wordpix (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 07:02 PM Response to Reply #32 |
38. I moved in with mom & with her helpers there, it's not bad at all |
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demigoddess (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 06:30 PM Response to Original message |
33. My advice is to step in earlier. Our relative spent a lot of money |
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wordpix (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 06:59 PM Response to Original message |
37. I'm the only one in our family willing to live in with mom |
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lunatica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 07:09 PM Response to Original message |
41. My son and I took care of my mother for 5 years |
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wordpix (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 07:25 PM Response to Original message |
43. one of the worst things is, if you're elderly and employ health aides, you must pay employment tax |
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fujiyama (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 08:26 PM Response to Reply #43 |
47. . |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 09:10 PM Response to Original message |
48. it doesn't quite seem believable to me, sorry |
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DesertFlower (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 09:56 PM Response to Reply #48 |
50. you made some good points. |
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Downwinder (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 10:50 PM Response to Reply #50 |
53. To each his own. I have been a caregiver. |
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DesertFlower (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 10:54 PM Response to Reply #53 |
54. i have not been a caregiver. i don't have |
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Johnny Harpo (330 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 10:31 PM Response to Reply #48 |
51. OK...Tell Us More.........Please.... |
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DesertFlower (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-18-11 10:49 PM Response to Reply #48 |
52. my mom didn't want any of her children |
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October (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-19-11 11:14 AM Response to Reply #52 |
61. No flames from me, DesertFlower |
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sarcasmo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 08:05 PM Response to Reply #52 |
71. +1 |
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October (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-19-11 12:38 AM Response to Reply #48 |
55. It was a nightmare for me, personally |
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Downwinder (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-19-11 02:07 AM Response to Reply #55 |
56. After a brain injury you are not the same person. |
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October (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-19-11 10:47 AM Response to Reply #56 |
59. Correct... |
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Dappleganger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 08:42 PM Response to Reply #56 |
75. This is quite true, we experienced the same with my mother |
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mainer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-08-11 12:28 PM Response to Reply #55 |
83. Understand completely. Not all aged parents are nice to be around. |
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Viva_La_Revolution (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-19-11 11:25 AM Response to Reply #48 |
63. I get out of the house once a week for grocery shopping |
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Vanje (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Aug-07-11 10:46 PM Response to Reply #48 |
81. "it doesn't quite seem believable to me, sorry" |
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lunatica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-08-11 02:05 PM Response to Reply #48 |
85. I feel sorry for anyone under your care. |
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Xithras (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-19-11 11:33 AM Response to Original message |
64. My wife and I have fought a running battle over her mother for several years. |
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Habibi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-19-11 01:55 PM Response to Reply #64 |
65. Stick to your guns, man. |
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Xithras (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-19-11 02:21 PM Response to Reply #65 |
66. That's not the half of it. |
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Habibi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-19-11 03:24 PM Response to Reply #66 |
68. MIL should consult an elder law attorney about |
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madokie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jul-19-11 02:26 PM Response to Original message |
67. I helped take care of my mother the last 6 years of her life |
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Downwinder (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 08:10 PM Response to Reply #67 |
72. Maybe she was taking care of you. |
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sarcasmo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 07:47 PM Response to Original message |
70. I have taken care of my wife for 3 years now, it does take a fine temperament to handle caregiving. |
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Dappleganger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 08:46 PM Response to Reply #70 |
76. Bless you. |
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Cresent City Kid (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 08:53 PM Response to Original message |
77. Best of luck to you |
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Downwinder (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 09:04 PM Response to Reply #77 |
78. She is going to need help. |
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Cresent City Kid (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-20-11 09:10 PM Response to Reply #78 |
79. I agree |
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lunatica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Aug-08-11 01:43 PM Response to Original message |
84. I took care of my mother for 5 years |
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