The Possibilities of Pleasure

[max sg]

I wanted to share this article about gay men, addiction and grief.


The Possibilities of Pleasure: Why I Feel Like Getting High Tonight
by Max Gordon
April 12, 2005
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Several weeks before she died, my mother and I had a conversation.

I was standing in her kitchen cooking dinner, which I burned because I was flustered. She was sitting in her wheelchair with a purple shawl around her shoulders. It was April, and that day there had been a chill in the house. I couldn’t remember how our conversation had begun, but since they all ended up at the same place anyway, it didn’t matter.

“Give yourself some time to figure things out,” she begged. “How do you know what you want? You’re still a child in so many ways. You shouldn’t give yourself a label until you are absolutely sure what it means. You'll regret it later. And you definitely shouldn’t run around telling the whole wide world about this thing.”

“I’m sure I’m gay, Mom,” I said.

http://possiblepleasure.blogspot.com

[Patiod]

1. Wow

Read the whole thing (in spite of having tons of work to do today).

It was eye-opening in understanding the self-destructive behavior some of my gay friends over the years, (and for that matter, even self-destructive behavior of straight friends and myself). Powerful stuff.

Thanks Max.

PS cute dog

[MADem]

2. There's a NOVEL in there!

A potential best-seller, IMHO.

That is some fine writing, too.