Gawd, what painful memories

[Archae]

Watching "48 Hours" on CBS, showing how those not the "BMOC" get horribly treated in schools.

Lot of painful memories for me.
Non-athlete, "bookworm," etc.

Beatings, taunts, you name it.

[BlackVelvetElvis]

1. What's BMOC?

[dflprincess]

2. Big Man on Campus

n/t

[Cleita]

3. Sorry for you Archae and anyone else that had to put up with that.

When I was in school bullying was discouraged and bullies were disciplined by the principal. I don't think schools should allow this type of stuff to happen. Why does it? Is it some crazy idea about individual rights. I don't think rights should extend to hurting others, do you?

[Archae]

5. That's the biggest problem

The bullies usually get away with it, because of what was highlighted in the first segment.

They were the football stars.

Even a guy who threatens teachers and other students gets to stay on the team with *NO* discipline against him. :mad:

And the parents who said "Enough!" are getting death threats.

[SayitAintSo]

4. The bullies of this world create the "Columbines"...

Never doubt it for a minute. My little brother was seriously bullied as a child because of a embarrassing birth defect. He now suffers from PTSD. It's really sad what kids have to endure. They can be so cruel.

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7. God help me

My first thought, when I had heard of what had happened to the kids who did the shooting at Columbine, was I know why they did it. The feeling of aloneness that one feels when every single day they know that they are going to get shit just for showing up is just awful. I felt lower than whale shit for a few years in school.

[SheilaT]

6. What outrages me the most

about bullying, is the all-too-common attitude on the part of adults is that it's just a part of growing up, that the bullied kid needs to get used to it.

Behavior we call "bullying" in schools would often be actionable in the workplace. It's totally unacceptable, as far as I'm concerned.

We moved our oldest to a new school when he was entering 7th grade, in part because of a bullying problem. The new school -- a private one with small classes -- did not tolerate bullying, and the things that had made him different and odd in the public school didn't seem to matter in the new one. I cannot imagine how he would have survived the hell of the public middle school.

(My son has Asperger's Syndrome, a form of autism, but he had not yet been diagnosed when we made the switch.)

[dsc]

8. It was so tough being a book worm in my town

I was like some sort of alien. The years from 6th through 10th grade for me were just so harsh. I can honestly get, though I don't agree with, not liking people who are different. I can honestly understand, though I don't agree with, people thinking gays are immoral. But if I live to be a thousand, I will never understand how people can claim to read the Bible and belive in what it says, but still beat the holy shit out of someone just because he or she is gay, or is a bookish kid. I just don't get that.

[Skittles]

9. GIVE ME THEIR NAMES

WE WILL KICK THEIR ASSES

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10. kick

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11. kick

[NightTrain]

12. Isn't it amazing how many DUers were tormented in school?

To this day, I sometimes have dreams that I'm back in school, but at the age I am now. And there are my old tormenters, still the same vicious, mean-spirited teen-agers they were 20+ years ago. But this time, I don't keep silent and absorb their verbal abuse like a Today, I have the sense of self-worth to tell those losers exactly how scummy they are and how intensely I despise them!

If I only had the chance to do that in real life....

[Skittles]

14. I moved every year

and at each new school I zeroed in on the "loners" in the cafeteria and made friends with them. Oh, imagine me in a small town in Iowa, right off the boat from England, blonde hair down to my waist and a Brit accent. All eyes on me! And I would head straight for the table where someone sat alone and ostracized. I made a lot of friends that way. :D

[dsc]

15. Not really

First, bullying is or at least was terribly common in high schools. Second, we are more LBGT than the general population, probably we are smarter than the general population, and we have political bliefs that are outside of the general population. All of those tend to lead to being picked on.

[devilgrrl]

13. The homo-eroticism associated with the football team...

always had me scratching my head.

Isn't the denial of wrong doing by the coaches just utterly astounding? :grr:

[Mountainman]

16. My younger brother was a BMOC and I was not

We were 2 years apart but I was always known as Ron's brother. I didn't have a name it seems.

My brother was class president, home coming king, high school fraternity member. I was a "looser." I never went to proms or school dances for fear of being "put down."

They must of felt sorry for me at times because they invited me to some of their parties but I didn't know any of them nor did I fit in.





Then the greatest thing happened. All us freaks began to be proud of being freaky! This was in the 60's. I loved being a freak and hanging out with the other freaks. Peace, love and rock and roll!

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17. My older brother was a great athlete

Until he let drugs take over in high school he was on many different teams. Even the coaches, who were our whole social studies dept, thought of me as my brother's brother. Since I was pretty bright I usually at least got an id from them but from students I was either 'fag' or so and so's brother.