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A little background: He's a STAUNCH Republican. Always has been, always will be. He's not a freeper-type. He doesn't watch Fox or listen to hate radio. He's a casual Lutheran and so not a fundie. Still, he would no more vote for a Democrat than cut his own leg off.
My first vote after turning 18 was for Jimmy Carter in his first run for presidency. My dad and I used to have screaming matches about that, so we just decided not to ever talk about politics or religion (I'm also an athiest). That's made for a peaceful relationship for 24 years.
Back in August, he called me on my birthday (he lives in another state) and we had a nice long talk. At the end, I couldn't help myself. I asked him what he thought of Bush. Well, that just started him off. He started going on about how Kerry was a goddamn no good liar and Edwards no better and blah blah blah. I suspected that he believed the Swift Boat Liars for Bush (they had just started up, and he lives in a very red state) and I tried to tell him that he was being lied to. He yelled "YOU'RE A DEMOCRAT?? I DON'T WANT TO KNOW YOU IF YOU'RE A DEMOCRAT!" and hung up on me! Jesus!
I assumed that was the end of the relationship. I hadn't done anything wrong and wasn't about to call him and make up.
Well, this morning I get a phone call and it's dad, wanting to talk politics! I couldn't believe it. He made sure I knew right at the start that he'd already voted, and of course it was for Bush. I told him how hurt I was at what he said and hanging up on me and he apologised. That's a big step for my dad, who grew up an Iowa farmboy (lives in Kansas now).
I told him I just wanted to know what it was he was so angry about, at least back in August, and asked him if it was the Swift Boat guys, and he said yes, that was part of it. I asked him if he would listen to me for a while and he said well you'll just say anything because it's your guy. I told him that hurt my feelings too. I don't overlook flaws and I don't care (well, much) if dad doesn't like Kerry. But it had to be for reasonable reasons, and not based on lies. He seemed to accept that, and I spent the next 20 minutes telling him about Nixon, John O'Neal, how what Kerry said in his testimony was taken out of context, how all the others have been systematically discredited, and my thoughts on why they were doing this to Kerry. He didn't say so, but I think I changed his mind about the SB Liars.
We talked for about 45 minutes. During the conversation he said 2 things that REALLY surprised me. We didn't talk about Bush, because I knew he didn't want to hear a litany of my gripes, but at one point I said "Look, I know you like Bush..." with the intention of saying something like "but Kerry is a good man and will make a good president if he wins" but dad cut me off saying "Ah, Bush is a liar!"
I was so shocked I didn't know what to say! This is a man who it took several years before admitting that Nixon might have done some bad stuff. I was dying to know what made him say that, but I didn't want to press my luck and just said "yep."
Also, he asked ME what I thought of Howard Dean! I said I liked him, and he did too!!!!! Wow! He wouldn't have voted for him, but he liked the way Dean came right out and said "what's what" and spoke his mind. I didn't ask where dad saw Dean and what he heard him saying, but if dad thought Bush was a liar, it seems as if it was Howard Dean that made him think so! Will wonders never cease.
So, I felt really good at the end of the conversation. We'd made up, and he seemed ready to accept Kerry as a president if it should go that way.
Then I went to vote...wheee!
I just had to share my story.
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