Ladies: Did this ever happened to you? How did you handle it?

[readmylips]

We have a neighbor we call the Pig Woman. She's loud, uncouth, rude, etc. Her husband is hand-pecked but is quite a nice guy. Many times the Pig Woman had referred to my hubby as a 'good catch.' Why would anybody refer to a married man as a good catch? Besides, my hub doesn't like to be the center of attention about anything.

They are our neighbors but not really friends nor do we socialize. Late last Saturday, she knocked on our door. We invited her in thinking that there was something wrong. We were already in our sleeping clothes. She said it was her Birthday and had invited herself to a glass of wine with us at our house. You could tell that she had been drinking. My hub served her a small glass of wine and she just chucked it down, grabbed the bottle and drank the whole thing. She began to hug my hub and kept calling him 'a good catch.' She turned to me and told me that she wanted to go to bed with my husband. I grabbed her by the arm and put her out the door. She wanted my hub to walk her home, instead my hub called her husband to come get her. We locked the door so we don't know what happened.

Next day she called us about 8 times. We never called her back. The husband came to our door to apologize for her. We stood there frozen staring at the poor guy. My hub who never says anything negative about anybody said to him, 'your wife is a pig,' and shut the door on him.
I felt very proud of my hubby.

[eridani]

1. The world is full of jerks

If anything, you were too nice.

[yardwork]

2. She's an alcoholic

who sounds like she is reaching the bottom. If she doesn't get help soon, it sounds like she will lose her husband.

If you see her husband and he asks for any advice, you could tell him that you think his wife has a drinking problem and suggest that he go to Al-Anon.

Her husband could suggest that she go to AA or even suggest that she go into rehab, but it won't work unless she is ready to take the step herself.

Believe it or not, I was once something like this woman (not quite this bad, I think!). I've been sober for many years. I will pray for this woman and her family.

In the meantime, you did the right thing politely putting her out of your house. You don't have to put up with that.

[readmylips]

6. Her main problem: She's unsecured, must be center

stage of everything, and is always her vulgar acts that turn people off when she's not drunk. None of the other neighbors trust her or want anything to do with her. She doesn't drink every day. She's adult woman acting childish, and gets pissed off if people don't celebrate her vulgarity. I can understand an alcoholic person, but I will not put up with vulgarity and disrespect for my marriage and home.

I'm proud you are now healthy of mind and soul. I don't think you were ever like this neighbor. She's the know it all type, and God have mercy if you suggest she needs any type of help for her self-destruction. It's not my job. She can fight a 300 pound guy and win.

[spooky3]

3. I wish he hadn't been so cold to her poor husband. He didn't do

anything wrong to you and it couldn't have been easy for him to come over to apologize for his wife's bad behavior. I can certainly understand why you can't stand her. I hope she gets the help she needs and that you make sure she doesn't cross the line with you again.

[Sugarbleus]

7. I agree. Calling an obnoxious person a name at home is one

thing but jamming the deranged woman's husband is rather rude. I like what one of you said here: tell the woman's hubby to go get help for both of them; that's a much better suggestion than calling his wife a pig. That language and emotion isn't productive.

I live next door to some wild people. A mother and her adult daughter and grandson. The daughter is loud, bawdy, foul mouthed, and dresses like a slut. She yells at her kid and it's heard down the block. The mother can't detach from this situation so she is constantly in fights with the daughter. In short, these two are extremely dysfunctional. The daughter is more likely Bi-Polar. The mother is co dependent. After two years living next to the door-slamming duo, they get friendly with us. I mind my own business but I'm curteous to neighbors.

Pretty soon the mother is telling me her woes with her adult daughter and worries about the boy. Then police and fire personnel start showing up. The daughter is outside in the parking area yelling obscenities over her phone to her mother. The mother moves out a couple times but keeps coming back to check on the house. She still pays the daughter's rent. Finally the mother wants US to become involved in their drama. She wants us to report to the police/CPS any time the daughter yells at her kid.

Finally, I had to tell her over a phone call (she was drunk) that we didn't agree to any interference between her and her daughter. IF we saw marks or something telling on the boy, we'd act as good citizens. But absent of that, we did not want to become tangled in their sorrows. We have our own problems.

I went over to talk to the daughter to tell her in no uncertain terms that WE DID NOT WANT TO BE INVOLVED IN THEIR FAMILY BUSINESS. I sat down with a cup of coffee to have a frank talk with the daughter. I can be pretty serious when I need to. The daughter understood me clearly. The daughter never really bothered us in the first place except for her loud behaviour. The mother, on the other hand, still tries to call and get us to go over and check on the daughter!! I simply ignore the calls. If the mother comes here to talk to me face to face, I'll have to tell her the same thing.

Beyond that, we stay to ourselves and do not allow ourselves to be caught up in their crap. We are not rude, we are frank. We will say hello if addressed by them...that's it. I've also learned that "NO" is a wonderful word/tool. Don't get involved in neighbors business, don't call them names, stay to one's self. Works wonderfully.

[mainer]

4. Her poor husband needs your sympathy

The guy sounds abused. He needs your support, just as any abused woman needs a neighbor's support.

[azoth]

5. I'd have been a little more compassionate toward her husband.

HE didn't do anything drunken or stupid - given, of course, he married her willingly and sober. I feel sorry for the man - obviously your husband is irritated but I don't think he deserved the venom. He was trying to do the right thing. Now, the wife, on the other hand...

And no - we haven't had anything so bizarre happen. We did know a couple who wanted to swing but they openly asked us.