Should Single Men Be Allowed to Adopt Children?

[GiovanniC]

Okay, so I was stuck on hold and bored the other day and I was thumbing through the yellow pages while I waited. I came across advertisements for adoption agencies and they pretty much all said, "Adoptions for couples or single women."

I'm just curious... besides innuendo and the idea that all men are rapists/pedophiles, is there a good reason why adoptions are extended to single women but not to single men? I recognize that single mothers can be very good parents, but I believe that single fathers can be, also.

I'm honestly not sure if there are a lot of single men who decide that they really WANT to adopt a child, but if there are some out there who would be a good and loving parent to a child, why deny them that? Thorough background checks are always SOP anyway and I'm not sure what a single man could potentially do to a child that a married man or even a woman couldn't do.

[justinsb]

1. Potential adoptive parents

Single or coupled should be screened carefully, just as they are now. But, allowing a child to grow up in an orphanage or in the foster care system - watching other children get adopted and go into the world in the position of the dog no one wanted at the pound, is the cruelest possible option; even if other options cause problems at times.

[justinsb]

2. In short

1 good parent is better than none.

[MemphisTiger]

5. I agree. I don't see why a single man couldn't be a good

parent. Obviously, they would be screened, but if they just want to provide a good home for a child, I don't see the downside here.

[bleedingheart]

3. Only People with great support systems should adopt kids

I don't care about marital status but I am more concerned about the caregiver having people to fall back upon in time of need because children are a lot of work.

typically couples do best but I don't see why singles shouldn't adopt...

However...that said...I just read an article about a man who adopted a 5 year old from Russia who began molesting this gal the moment he got her home...she was his sex slave for years and he malnourished her to keep her looking like a child....sick sick sick...
here is the link...

http://www.post-gazette.com/pg/05149/512403.stm

why doesn't anyone check in to make sure these kids weren't given over to perverts???

[justinsb]

4. That's a sad story

but it shouldn't be assumed that all single people are child molesters or that that is the motivation behind a single person wanting to adopt. They should be screened but as I said above, one good parent is better than none.

[GiovanniC]

6. That Story Underscores Why Potential Parents Should Be Thoroughly Screened

but, in my opinion, it does not illustrate that all single men should be barred from adoption.

[bleedingheart]

7. I agree with you...

there are many singles, most men and women would be good parents but I think screening in all cases is essential...hell there are couples who are first rate perverts with their own biological kids.

[BiggJawn]

8. Because EVERYONE just KNOWS that women are "nurturing"...

Why, just ask Andrea Yates...:sarcasm:

[GiovanniC]

9. I Would Be Curious To Hear From the Person Who Believes

That only married couples should adopt, and that not even gay couples or any other combination is acceptable.

Would they be brave enough to come forward and justify that hare-brained position, or is their head crammed so far up their ass that it's difficult for them to type?

[GiovanniC]

13. Now There Are Two of You

Come on, out yourselves. Let's hear your idiotic reasons for that position.

[GiovanniC]

17. Now Three Bastards... And Nobody Has a Reason

:hi::hi::hi: Hi, you fucking worthless freepers! :hi::hi::hi:

[wakeme2008]

10. I was worried I would be asked to adopt a 10yo

the I loved and cared for, but I (single male) got lucky and Fl. DCF moved her to WV with a relative.... :woohoo:

All I know is I wanted her in a home with ppl that loved her and out of the foster care system. Would I have adopted her YES, would I have changed my lifestyle to raise her YES... But I am glad in some ways I didn't have too.


And I know of two major cases in Florida since 2000 that adopted parents phyically abused their children. One is currently in the court system.

[progressivebydesign]

25. And if they tallied how many natural parents are abusers..

.. we'd all see that adoptive seems safer.

[DanCa]

11. I am abstainning from the poll but heres my response.

As long as the parents are thoughrly background checked and are able to finicialy care for the child, and that no harm comes to said child, I personally have no problems with adoption by anyone regardles ofo a persons orientation race creed religion or marital status. So my answer in life is as always it depends on the individual and I cant give you my answer until i know said individual.

[GiovanniC]

12. Well, There Is No Specific Individual

This is just an "in general" sort of question.

[demokatgurrl]

14. It's a state issue, many states allow it. What state are you in? n/t

[GiovanniC]

15. I'm Not Referring to My Specific State or to Any Specific State

I am merely asking if single men SHOULD, in your opinion, be allowed to adopt children, and if not, why not.

[AngryAmish]

16. A friend of mine is a single adoptive father

His sister had a daughter and then his sister REALLY got into drugs. He lives with his daughter and his father. Great father and great kid.

However, they have a big support system. I'm single and I would never consider adopting because I am an irresponsible person who likes to drink too much.

About gay adoptions: There is no possible sane law that would prevent this. However, those kids better learn how to fight at a young age because lets face it, children are monsters and will be cruel.

[Der Blaue Engel]

23. Children are monsters and will be cruel

regardless of who your parents are...and will be especially so depending on who their parents are.

I have never met anyone raised by non-traditional parents who felt they had it harder than other kids, nor do I see any of the kids of non-traditional parents that I know (including myself) getting beaten up or harassed for it. Kids are far more civilized than adults in certain situations.

[GiovanniC]

18. FIVE People Don't Even Think That Gay/Lesbian Couples Should Get to Adopt?

On a Democratic forum? That's fucking ridiculous IMO.

[gollygee]

26. Trolls

they vote too.

[FreedomAngel82]

19. Why shouldn't they?

:shrug: If they have the authority to do so and pass the tests or whatever then why not? There are so many kids who need good homes and loving parent(s).

[GiovanniC]

20. Well, I Tend To Agree, Of Course

However, I can understand that there are even some people here who would not find it appropriate for their various reasons.

However, what I cannot fathom are the people who are saying ONLY married couples, excluding all others, even gay/lesbian couples in civil unions.

I can only hope that they either didn't read the options carefully or that they are pathetic freeper trolls. I notice that not a single one of them justified their poll response.

[assclown_bush]

21. I fail to see why anyone would want a child? Adopted or otherwise.

But that is my personal opinion and I would, therefore never ever adopt a child. What ever happened to the idea of "population explosion" of the 70's? Did that just disappear with pollution and acid rain? I know of sooo many people from L.A. who are into every type of recycling and all other types of ecologically friendly trends. And I support that. But then they bring children into the equation. As if the population of the world is dying out.
Before anyone jumps all over me, remember that I said that is MY opinion and I apply it to MY life. It is just seems a teensy weensy bit hypocritical for me to want to save the planet and still want to see yourself "replicated" for some reason.

:hide:

[enigmatic]

22. Of course

My wife and I are childfree by choice, but I also know there many, many kids w/o parents who need some kind of parent; if they (or anyone else) can pass the requirements for adopting, why shouldn't they be able to adopt?

[progressivebydesign]

24. I'll take any and all of the above people for adoptive parents.

If you have worked in a place as I had worked, a home for abused and neglected kids, you'd know that just because someone is one sex or another.. or even actual natural parents.. does not make them a better parent. People treated their dogs better than these kids were treated by their own parents. I think ANYONE that is proven stable and well adjusted and willing to love and care for a child, should be allowed to adopt. Regardless of sex, orientation, or race. People have no idea how many older kids are in the system waiting for a loving parent or parents. Excellent screening should take care of any doubts.

[Yupster]

27. Are there really laws that allow

single women but bar single men?

That would it seems be knocked down on civil rights grounds alone.

My opinion is good loving parents or parent are better than not having them.

When all the kids are in loving homes and there are prospective parents fighting over the last few available kids, then we'll start arguing with which group is theoretically better.

Until then, I'm for everyone who's capable and willing to take in a kid to do so.