realFedUp
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Fri Sep-23-05 10:02 AM
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Someone can take this theme and use to explain Bush enablers...
How Do Co-Dependent People Behave? Co-dependents have low self-esteem and look for anything outside of themselves to make them feel better. They find it hard to “be themselves.” Some try to feel better through alcohol, drugs or nicotine - and become addicted. Others may develop compulsive behaviors like workaholism, gambling, or indiscriminate sexual activity.
They have good intentions. They try to take care of a person who is experiencing difficulty, but the caretaking becomes compulsive and defeating. Co-dependents often take on a martyr’s role and become “benefactors” to an individual in need. A wife may cover for her alcoholic husband; a mother may make excuses for a truant child; or a father may “pull some strings” to keep his child from suffering the consequences of delinquent behavior.
The problem is that these repeated rescue attempts allow the needy individual to continue on a destructive course and to become even more dependent on the unhealthy caretaking of the “benefactor.” As this reliance increases, the co-dependent develops a sense of reward and satisfaction from “being needed.” When the caretaking becomes compulsive, the co-dependent feels choiceless and helpless in the relationship, but is unable to break away from the cycle of behavior that causes it. Co-dependents view themselves as victims and are attracted to that same weakness in the love and friendship relationships.
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daninthemoon
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Fri Sep-23-05 10:04 AM
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1. You paint a realistic picture. Sounds like them, alright. |
realFedUp
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Fri Sep-23-05 10:10 AM
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2. I took the definition from a website...not my words.... |
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but yeah...sounds like Karen/Rove et al.
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Fri Sep-23-05 10:25 AM
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3. The key to codependency is blaming another for one's own behavior. |
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Edited on Fri Sep-23-05 10:28 AM by TahitiNut
Classic example: She nags 'because' he drinks. He drinks 'because' she nags. I think of it as a slow-motion social 'Mutually Assured Destruction.' The eternal Victim-Villain-Rescuer life melodrama is the dance of codependency. They each 'need' the others to play out a 'role' that's not self-fulfilling or self-actualizing, but constantly seeking lower standards.
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Fri Sep-23-05 10:27 AM
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these people can't take responsibility for any of their actions.
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Fri Sep-23-05 10:28 AM
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5. You forgot - redemption |
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They all believe that the person they are "helping" will change and the slip-ups that occur are just temporary and don't reflect the true person.
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Fri Sep-23-05 10:54 AM
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6. If the person really wanted to change....and we know that Bush |
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thinks he is just doing fine in his imitation of Reagan.
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Fri Sep-23-05 11:20 AM
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7. Sorry, but this reminds me of a joke... |
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Q: What's the last thing a co-dependent sees before they die?
A: Somebody ELSE'S life flashing before their eyes.
A little levity for the morning, Shine
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